I love stationery and cards, so I always spend time looking for just the right thing to send. As I was looking at cards today, I came across one that was really nice. The photo was classy, the words were not schmaltzy, and it was the card I wanted to buy. But I hesitated...and then shrugged it off...and then hesitated again...and then finally bought it. I decided my hesitation would make an interesting question to pose on my blog: Would you think it was weird if your white friend sent you a Mahogany card? Or would you even notice? If you're white, would you buy a Mahogany card? And if you're black, would you send a Mahogany card to a white friend? If I send it, will I look like I'm "trying too hard to not be racist"? And if I don't send it, will I look racist?
I went through the same hesitation several months ago. It took me forever to find a card that exactly expressed what I wanted to say, and then when I found it, it was a Mahogany card. I hesitated as well, but ended up buying it anyway, because it had the perfect sentiment - but I always wondered if the recepient noticed - or thought it was weird.
Posted by: Jen D at September 14, 2006 10:37 AM (D4EDG)
I think we've all been conditioned to worry about this stuff way too much. My 21 year old daughter went to the grocery store recently to buy some fresh spinach. When she was checking out and they rang it up, it came up as collard greens and she realized she had grabbed the wrong thing. She was worried it would look racist if she put it back, so she bought it, cooked it and ate it. She said it was good! But I still think the story shows how oversensitive we are. I say send the card if it spoke to you and don't give it a 2nd thought.
Posted by: Amy at September 14, 2006 02:26 PM (I9LMv)
You're racist if you are and you're not it you're not.
Posted by: Will at September 14, 2006 02:54 PM (H4u2c)
If your friend is really a friend they won't even notice, but rather appreciate the message inside. Racism is what you or anyone else makes it.
And for the record....I don't know any racist, they are just people who don't know better.
Questions like this are why I love reading your page!
...by the way, I'm half black and I would have put the collard greens back, because I prefer spinach!
Posted by: Vonn at September 14, 2006 03:23 PM (/VoEr)
Flowers, kittens, ducks, puppies and stuff like that work better as they provide a path through the stupid-ass P.C. minefield.
Posted by: Jim - PRS at September 14, 2006 09:49 PM (ANg2D)
This is what is wrong with the massively over PC crowd. Now sending something as simple as a Card has turned in to, will this person think I am a racist because of the color of my card. WTF over as long as the card itself is not blatantly racist, i.e. has a burning cross or something like that on it. I would not worry about it. Remember a friend will get you out of jail, but a true friend will be in jail with you going, She did not look like a cop.
Posted by: dagamore at September 14, 2006 10:28 PM (7IZfE)
Found you through Sensless drive by thoughts! I would have to say, from one stationary lover to another, that to me, it would not matter. If it says what I want it to say, I would not have given it a second thought. I probably would not have even noticed to be truthful.
Posted by: Aunt Murry at September 15, 2006 04:21 AM (/n9kT)
I'd like to know if a black person is even writing these sentiments for these cards?
We are all too sensitive. I've bought these cards.
I love 'em
Posted by: Kelly's mom at September 15, 2006 04:44 AM (U+Azr)
I know exactly what you mean; we have gone from insensitivity to racism to hyper-sensitivity to even the mere possibility that a racist thought might accidently pass through our mind. I hope we will soon reach the point at which true racists can be alienated by everybody for the jerks they are; and the rest of us can have a conversation (or buy a card) without worrying that someone is going to THINK we are racist.
On the other hand; when some telemarketer calls and makes a comment about my Southern accent the first thing I ask is "What are you some kind of racist?" they usually end up apologizing and promising to take me off their calling list. I have a friend who says I'm a hypocrit for using the same PC crap that I hate just to get rid of someone I don't want to talk to. (OK, they don't have to comment on my accent, I just look for a reason to accuse them of incipient racism. They usually don't even stop to figure out that I'm not black and it has gotten me off more calling lists than the so-called do not call register.)
Sigh....I am not a nice person.
Posted by: Pamela at September 15, 2006 06:08 AM (HRfF5)
Posted by: tim at September 15, 2006 07:38 AM (nno0f)
Hmmm...I'd never even heard of Mahogany cards. But you can send ME one anytime. I promise I won't think you're weird.
Posted by: Erin at September 15, 2006 10:41 AM (023Of)
"And for the record....I don't know any racist, they are just people who don't know better."
Funny, I am black and I was going to write that the photo (not nec. cartoon) on the card should reflect the race of the recipient (i.e. I wouldn't buy a black person a card with a white person on it)... but then even I hestitated because this made sense to me in the world of black and white... but, I stopped to ask myself if I would be racist if I gave an asian person a card with an asian person on it.
So the answer is... i don't know.
Posted by: Terri at September 15, 2006 11:04 AM (cgjLF)
I believe if you like the card, then nothing else shouldn't matter. Go with your first instincts. When people are buying cards they normally look for the card that suits that person, not whether the card is offensive to a race of people. If someone is offended, then their probaly a bit narrow minded, and you can't change that. There The Great One has spoken
Posted by: chris crawley at September 16, 2006 10:51 PM (cC0N+)
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