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This has happened to our dog and one of our cats for various reasons. Instead of letting your pup sleep directly on the bedspread, can you put down a sheet or towel for him? Much easier to wash. With our dog, we put up a gate to keep him in the linoleum area instead of the carpeted areas, and tried to have activities (or couch potato time) near him. The kitty got a special (expensive) tummy diet, the dog got chicken and rice, just rice at first. There's also a spray or diffuser (like Glade plug ins) called Feliway that seemed to help. They make it for dogs & cats, we used it for our cats. It helped most times (4 cats). It might help him to also deal with your upcoming changes as well. They'll be great changes, but still stressful! Enjoy being a new mom and being reunited. I know you will.
Posted by: HChambers at February 17, 2010 06:48 PM (m6pqD)
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Aw, MAN. You really CAN'T catch a break, can you? Well, I'm glad he'll be okay when things get better. And they will!!
Posted by: Lissa at February 17, 2010 07:49 PM (mgjM7)
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Just wait til the baby cries and Charlie decides to howl in sympathy!!!
Posted by: Pamela at February 18, 2010 03:56 AM (dlFxI)
OF ALL THE TIMES
At SpouseBUZZ we like to joke about "deployment gremlins," all the little things that go wrong as soon as your husband leaves for deployment. Well, I have been having bed rest gremlins.
It started with a broken garage door. Two days before bed rest started, the garage door decided it likes going up but not down. And then I ended up in bed before I could fix it. Luckily I haven't needed my car in two weeks. Unluckily, the door is still busted.
Then my mom arrived to help me. My mom with the broken foot who moves at half her normal speed and has trouble getting up and down stairs, which is the whole reason I needed her help. She's still doing it, bless her. I am not picking on her, just stating a fact. Of all the times for her to break her foot...
And then the dog. The first day my mom was here, the dog ate her meds. She had to induce vomiting. And now, the dog is mysteriously sick. We can't for the life of us figure out what could've made him sick, but he has had diarrhea and vomiting for three days. The first night, I tried to take care of him, but after going up and down the stairs six times to let him out, I knew I had to relinquish the chore to my mother or else the baby was gonna fall out on the stairs. So now the dog wakes me and then I wake my mother so she can let him into the backyard. And he probably needs to go to the vet by now, but that means sending my mom with him. Of all the times for him to get sick...
And you know, I don't remember having any moral qualms about letting my mom take care of me when I had my wisdom teeth out at 18. She fetched and comforted. But it's a whole different game for me as an adult. I hate asking her for help. I hate it. I hate waking her in the middle of the night so she can wipe my dog's bottom with toilet paper to make sure he doesn't soil my bedspread again...since it's had to get washed twice already in the past two days. It's one thing to have her go make me a sandwich -- and believe me, I don't like asking her to do that either -- but it's a whole nother thing to make her take care of my dog's vomit and poop.
We're both exhausted and stressed out. And unfortunately, this story won't end with a nice vacation and a long nap; it will end with a crying baby who needs even more attention than the dog.
I can't believe this is how I'm spending the end of my pregnancy.
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Wow. Sounds like Murphy has moved right in with you! I agree it is very stressful. BUT - it won't end with a crying baby that needs more attention. It will BEGIN your life as a mom, and after the birth you will be MOBILE again which will change everything.
I would think the dog's affliction is from the meds he ate (or did you see them come out WHOLE when he vomited them?). Our dog ate a whole plate of Christmas cookies (never knew she could get things off the table!) and had stomach 'issues' for days. It was awful, and our comforter went through the laundry a few times too! I'd give it a few more days. Or call the vet and ask their opinion. Maybe they will be able to check a stool sample and that would be easier for your mom to drive over there than actually bringing the dog with her. Good luck Sarah. You are on the home stretch now. The blogosphere is cheering you on!
Posted by: Amy at February 17, 2010 10:31 AM (Cy1WK)
Yes, but hearing the baby cry is so much better than NOT hearing that sound. You are almost there, Sarah!!
Bad things come in three's.... and you've already had your three, so it's smooth sailing now!!
Posted by: AFSister at February 17, 2010 11:08 AM (HoMeG)
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Does your vet have boarding? Forgive me for sounding callous, but seriously sometimes there's only so much you can take. I am one of those rotten people that loves her dog a whole lot less since my kids were born, but with vomit/poo and bedrest, I'd be inclined to drop him for a doggie vacation at the vet!
Posted by: Lane at February 17, 2010 01:59 PM (DWrpt)
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Aw, I 'm so sorry. I wish I could come over and take care of your dog and make you a sandwich, and bring you a new book to read and pop in a good DVD and try to keep you entertained. I am really proud of you. Someday she will read all of this and realize how much her mom loves her AND how much you love her DAD and she will realize what a special gift she is!
Posted by: Stacy at February 17, 2010 04:21 PM (7FV6m)
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Charlie will be okay. Dogs just take longer to get meds out of their system. It's why people drugs are usually the wrong dosage for doggie drugs. His body's doing its best to get rid of the meds.
Just a thought, but one of those cute little diapers with a tail-hole cut out would probably work out okay--we used to use them when our female pekingese was in season (when I was a kid.)
Don't worry about the garage door. Add it to the honey-do list. Park the car in the driveway and get the door closed, then forget about it.
Finally, your mom is going to be your mom. If she didn't want to help any way she could, she wouldn't be there, broken foot and all. You don't feel like you need to be waited on, to have someone take care of things for you, but that's why she came, and believe it or not, you need her to be doing exactly what she is doing, because you are unable. It's a parenting thing. You'll understand soon enough when you are picking boogers out of noses with your fingers, not getting grossed out by having a little vomit on your shirt, and playing "what the hell is THAT!?" when changing diapers.
In 20something years, repay the favor. Or if you want to assuage your guilt, feel free (when you are up and about) to fetch me a sandwich. I have no trouble with being waited upon.
Posted by: Chuck at February 17, 2010 04:39 PM (bMH2g)
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Sarah, I'm here for you because you're my daughter and I'd do anything for you! I'll always be your mom no matter what age you are, and not only now, but in the future, when you need help, I will be here for you. I know we've had a crazy set of circumstances with the dog, my foot, your little dancing baby wanting to be born and waiting for her daddy to come home. Yes, I'm not as fast as I was when you were growing up, and this darn foot doesn't help matters, but I hope you will look back someday and be glad we had this time together. You are my precious daughter, and I love you very much.
Your Mama
Posted by: Nancy at February 17, 2010 11:56 PM (gWUle)
Sarah: you and your mom are making me cry and laugh all at the same time! I'm so glad you are documenting all this craziness in your blog, because you are building great memories. These stories will be told around the Christmas tree, and at the Thanksgiving dinner table for years to come! Try the plain white rice and boiled chicken for Charlie; definitely put the sheet over your bedspread for a few more days, and forget the darn garage door for now. Know that we are praying for your whole family. Just hang in there for a little while longer...
Love and hugs,
Mary
Posted by: Mary at February 18, 2010 12:08 AM (MZGTX)
The baby is fine, Dad is on his way home, your Mom is there to look after you, Charlie will be OK, the garage door will get fixed. Life...it's strange, but, wow are there ever compensations. When you and your hubby hold that sweet baby girl in your arms all of this will seem not quite so awful.
Oh and let me tell you what will make up to your Mom for everything she is doing now: a hug and a kiss and a quiet heartfelt "I love you Mom, I don't know how I would have made it without you here." That's all a Mom needs to keep her going, that and to be allowed to rub as much of the new off the baby as she can before she goes home.
Posted by: Pamela at February 18, 2010 03:53 AM (dlFxI)
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I won't repeat what's been said above...they're right, you know. However, I will focus on one thing you put in your post, "the end of my pregnancy." This is it! Baby Grok will be here healthy and happy before you know it. Continue taking care of yourself.
Moms totally rock and yours is no different.
Posted by: Susan at February 18, 2010 09:44 AM (4aKG6)
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Yup, you are definitely living in a sitcom, way too real to be reality TV. I can assure you, your mom's foot may hurt but she is there for you, she said so. And I have been in much the same situation. Only the pregnant one matters. Dog's can have Pepto bismol. Don't try giving him the liquid, use the pills. I learned that from some really dumb experience. I had a pink Yorkie. Ask the vet how much. As for the garage door, the little thingy that sends the little signal across the bottom of the door probably got off kilter. That happened to ours. If you live long enough you kind of know a lot of solutions. Not guaranteed, though. ;D Still waiting for baby news, and do you have a Target nearby?
Posted by: Ruth H at February 18, 2010 01:53 PM (JCV5R)
I loved my husband's qualities before I ever had any inkling he
would become my husband. In fact, he had declined my suggestion that we
date. Weeks later, he came to me with his mind and said that he had made a mistake and we should be together. We figuratively shook on it, and that was that.
Effectively, our love was transacted like a pound of butter on a grocery counter.
My husband earned my love. I too had to earn it from him, and it took him two weeks longer than I to weigh the merits of it.
We sat there in his dorm room, and he said that after much thought, he agreed that we ought to be together. And we looked at each other shyly and said, "OK then, I guess we're dating." And that was that.
Today he finally got access to a webcam and skype. For the first time since July, I got to see him. His appearance was shocking; I am definitely not used to the beard. Or the muscles. And on the flip side, the size of my belly blew him away.
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I'm sure he thought you were beautiful! The ultimate sight-for-sore-eyes
Posted by: Lissa at February 15, 2010 09:50 AM (mgjM7)
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Sarah, I am so happy you got to see him and he got to see you and your growing belly.
Posted by: Keri at February 15, 2010 10:15 AM (dtvJC)
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I bet he was just as happy to see you as you were to see him! I'm so happy for you both.
Posted by: Lemon Stand at February 15, 2010 01:05 PM (SUov1)
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What a thrill, I sure hope he gets home in time to see your belly in person. It is a huge thrill to feel that baby moving around inside of the one you love. Well, at least that was my husband's take on it, I never had the experience of being on that side of it. LOL
Posted by: Ruth H at February 15, 2010 01:35 PM (KLwh4)
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That is the most FANTASTIC news I've heard recently! Yea! That is excellent I bet your belly made his deployment.
Posted by: Darla at February 15, 2010 11:11 PM (XvIN7)
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Sniff, sniff. You're getting me all teared up. Great post, and I'm *so* glad you got to see each other.
Posted by: Lucy at February 16, 2010 05:20 PM (YNvUz)
WHAT, IT WAS? HOORAY!
Six years ago my husband was leaving on his first deployment on Valentine's Day. Now I am anxiously waiting for him to come home.
Even though we're apart, I will still participate in our traditions. And look forward to tomorrow, an even better day for us to celebrate.
BACK PORCH UPDATE
Jonah's back porch is more impressive, but I had to laugh at the meme when my mom took this one of my backyard this morning. We've got a few inches piled up.
And here's Ol' Dirty Charles, exhausted after playing in the snow...
You have an article up called Famous February Birthdays. Above it, you have the completely forgettable actor who played a werewolf or something in the Twilight movies.
Shame on you.
February birthdays should be highlighted by Abraham Lincoln or George Washington. Or Ronald Reagan.
Not some dufus no one will remember in five years.
Even more shameful, these three men are not even listed at all in the MSN famous February birthdays. But of course Ted Kennedy was. Plus Zsa Zsa Gabor and Jerry Springer.
MSN, you're ridiculous. February competency FAIL. Sarah
On the one hand, when we're borrowing so much money from China and we don't have any money of our own, we need to cut spending. And cutting philanthropy to other nations ought to be, in my opinion, one of the first things to go.
On the other hand, I think Pres Obama needs to take some guff for this. You know, because George Bush hates black people...even though George Bush did more for Africa than anyone else ever has. And apparently more than the first black president plans to do.
So part of me thinks this program needs to be cut (though I am unclear if they're really cutting it or just diverting the funds in another direction) and the other part of me wants someone to slap Kanye West in the face with this article and force him to eat fishsticks.
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I'll watch the forced fish-stick eating =). This really burns me up--as you said, not so much the cutting of funds, because spend-less-than-you-make is such a basic principle, but because G. W. B. gets so much guff for everything (when he really did some pretty cool things) and B. H. O. gets off the hook for everything (when he's really doing some pretty crappy things).
Posted by: Lucy at February 12, 2010 12:40 PM (YNvUz)
I had another appointment last night and this doctor was much calmer. She thinks my body is not reacting like a first-time mom because I have had to be induced three times already to have my miscarriages. So taking that into consideration, she thinks I can easily make it until my husband gets home. Thus I'm just going to keep taking it easy and hopefully can hang on to baby for one more week.
And then my husband will be home...
I have given almost no thought to the fact that the deployment is almost over. I have been so preoccupied with the baby that I haven't let myself get too excited over my husband's return. But he should be here in about a week or so.
I can't wait to lie on the bed with him and let him feel the baby kick. I want him to walk in the door and never take his hands off my tummy. I am so excited to finally experience that together.
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Oh, JOY!! For assuredly you deserve every moment of it!!
Posted by: Lissa at February 12, 2010 10:09 AM (eSfKC)
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Lissa's right, Oh, JOY!! Enjoy every blessed minute of it, you've earned it!
Posted by: Tibby at February 12, 2010 12:13 PM (S/Fac)
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I'm glad she thinks you can make it. I really, really hope he gets at least a few hours to experience baby-on-the-inside, and that you can see her face for the first time together. I'm glad he's so close to coming home.
Posted by: Lucy at February 12, 2010 12:41 PM (YNvUz)
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We are in the middle of this awful blizzard area and our internet has been down for the past 3 days. My work was backing up, I was out of touch with the world, had no idea what was going on (satellite didn't work for tv either) and all I could think of was "Did Sarah have her baby???" Glad to be back online (whew) and see that you are ok. He will be home before you know it. And then a whole new wonderful chapter will begin..........
Posted by: Amy at February 12, 2010 12:52 PM (Cy1WK)
I wish I could send my luck quotient for the next couple of months to you. Â I don't usually seem to get a lot, but I'd send it in a heartbeat so it all falls into place.
I'll have to settle for crossed fingers or something. Â
Posted by: Code Monkey at February 12, 2010 08:15 PM (AxVal)
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This will be super exciting!!!
Yea! Nothing like experiencing all this in the same zip code.
I can so relate to what you're saying about the counting down. I have some preoccupations here myself and I lose sight of the fact that he will be home and THEN we take the big trip. Of course, if I wait until he's home to prep for the big trip, we're in trouble!
Can't wait 'til he's home for you and the baby!!
Posted by: Guard Wife at February 12, 2010 09:29 PM (2IXlO)
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Almost there! On all accounts! I hope he gets to experience the pregnancy for a good moment or two before you both get to hold your new bundle in your arms
I'm so very happy for you!
Posted by: Darla at February 13, 2010 01:28 PM (FpL1n)
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Sarah, I am so excited for you and your husband. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: Mary at February 14, 2010 12:24 AM (MZGTX)
SURFACING
I'm still here. I have ideas for posts. But typing is a pain in the neck when you're supposed to be lying flat on your side. I did manage to write Perspective, Revisited on SpouseBUZZ. And that's about it. I've been reading The Corner still, but even reading and scrolling sucks while lying down. My kingdom for a Netbook right about now.
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I hope we didn't jinx you by telling you all our old horror stories of being ready but overdue;D We should have been more encouraging. When I had my last baby 49 years ago on the 19th, it was the only birth that I had my water break on it's own. When it did I was very excited and anxious but by the time we got to the hospital I was just eager to see whether it was a boy or girl. It was the easiest birth I had and he was so beautiful the nurses took him around and showed him to the other patients. There were only TWO babies in the hospital, a small one of the Eastern Shore of Virginia. They waited till around the first of February for their New Year's baby. Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. I hope the next post is a birth announcement and it is sent out by Daddy.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 10, 2010 11:29 PM (KLwh4)
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Ruth, at this point I would be happy to be overdue. Or just due. But this early stuff bothers me. I feel like I'm fighting nature by trying to avoid gravity and ignore contractions.
Posted by: Sarah at February 10, 2010 11:47 PM (gWUle)
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I too am happy you are there, just laying on your side and waiting. Crossing my fingers (and knees) you remain there till your husband gets home.
Posted by: Trudy at February 11, 2010 09:11 AM (Gp4FX)
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Thanks for keeping us posted. I've been and will be thinking of you (all), and praying.
Posted by: Lucy at February 11, 2010 12:08 PM (YNvUz)
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That happened to me with my first baby. I had her two weeks early after six weeks of contractions, but only 10 days of what you seem to be going through. She was tiny but wonderful. Now she is six inches taller than me and still wonderful. It will all be okay and worth it, but I know that isn't going to keep you from being anxious about it. All my sisters and I are praying for you. We think we have an in with the Big Guy.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 11, 2010 12:36 PM (19vzx)
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Ask Chuck if you can borrow his Dragon software...
Posted by: Miss Ladybug at February 11, 2010 11:00 PM (vqKnu)
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Sarah, I am glad you're still cooking. I had 2 friends deliver this week, both on Wednesday (in the snowstorms here) and both were girls. I was thinking of you and hoping you too werent in labor. Will your mom be able to stay a few weeks w/you? I hope so. Take care
Posted by: Keri at February 12, 2010 09:05 AM (dtvJC)
PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING
Nothing has changed from Wednesday until now, and yet it feels like everything has changed. I keep having to remind myself that nothing has...
The same symptoms I had on Wednesday are now magnified and making me paranoid. I feel exactly the same and yet now I am IN LABOR and getting freaked out over every twinge.
But I have kinda gotten over the freakout hump and feel better today.
Except I've lost three pounds since Wednesday.
And it starts all over again...
I am still in bed. My husband is snowed in in Afghanistan, which would be hilarious if it weren't so surreal. My mother is hobbling around on a broken foot after driving 21 hours straight in a snowstorm to get to my side.
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Don't forget that I also set off the alarm system when I let Charlie out this morning. Boy, I'm sure a big help! ha!
Posted by: Nancy at February 08, 2010 01:44 PM (gWUle)
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Thank goodness it's Monday? But, with Mom starting out the week with the alarm system incident, it may be a long week. Life is stranger than fiction. My husband says boredom is highly underrated. Maybe you'll have a few boring days!!
Posted by: Pamela at February 08, 2010 02:49 PM (yLosW)
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It seems you have the makings for a great sitcom going on. Keep that sense of humor, sounds like Mom may have a good one ,too. I was hoping we would have reports of labor and delivery since we hadn't heard for several days. Keep up the good work , labor on (pun intended) and have a great delivery and happy baby.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 08, 2010 03:46 PM (YpblU)
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Hang in there! Good luck with the new baby. I set me alarm off all the time. The company pretty much knows by now it is only me.
Posted by: juliannah at February 08, 2010 03:57 PM (UCijG)
With my first child, I had my first physical exam at 39 weeks and I was 100% effaced and 3 cm dilated. I was still going to work. I worked for the rest of that week and I finally told everyone I would work from home because it was making everyone nervous. Especially the women who had had c-sections, some of whom never made it to 3 cm. My son was born the day before his due date. My water broke at 1:30 AM and I wasn't feeling regular contractions until 2:30 AM. He was born at 5:55 AM. It was surreal, but also nice to start out labor 30% of the way there.
I hope your labor goes as fast and as safely as mine did, but only once your sweet husband is here!
Good luck.
Posted by: Christa at February 08, 2010 04:33 PM (2qSbp)
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Sarah, how did you lose three pounds in five days?
Posted by: Amritas at February 08, 2010 06:00 PM (+nV09)
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Amritas -- I wish I knew so I could gain them back...I didn't have that many to lose at this point.
Posted by: Sarah at February 08, 2010 07:21 PM (gWUle)
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Sarah, I am glad your mom is there w/you. I wish your husband was too. My neighbor is supposed to have her baby on Wed - We're supposed to get another 10-20 inches of snow on top of the 28+ we got over the weekend. I am not sure how she will get to the hospital, but I am hoping you are not getting the same weather. I suspect you're worrying and causing yourself stress, hence the weight loss. Enjoy the time w/your mom and I hope your husband gets home soon. Is he just home for R&R or will he be here to stay for awhile? Do you have another appt this week? Don't let them do any internal exams, you don't want them moving you along faster by poking around in there!
Posted by: Keri at February 08, 2010 09:54 PM (dtvJC)
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Don't worry about being in labor--unless you hear high pitched crying. Then it may be time to go to the doctor.
Posted by: Chuck at February 08, 2010 11:12 PM (bMH2g)
Sarah: I'm keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers as you wait for your precious daughter and your DH to arrive! I'm so glad your mom is there with you!
{{{HUGS}}}
Posted by: Mary at February 08, 2010 11:42 PM (MZGTX)
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Goodness gracious! I'm keeping you in my prayers.
Posted by: Val L. at February 09, 2010 07:51 AM (F4Qv7)
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Soon you'll have both your husband and little girl in your arms. My prayers go with you and your family.
Posted by: tink at February 09, 2010 01:46 PM (0SnNh)
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For real? Charley ate the medicine? That's just crazy! And a broken foot and an eager baby? I'm praying for ya pumpkin and sending you happy thoughts!
Posted by: Darla at February 10, 2010 12:43 AM (XvIN7)
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Maybe the weightloss is partially muscle loss from laying around so much...?
Posted by: FbL at February 11, 2010 01:24 AM (HyNTm)
I slept decently and haven't left my bed today for anything other than bathroom breaks. I have intense pelvic pressure when I stand up, but at least no contractions today. And so Charlie and I lie in bed and wait...
My husband called this morning because of the casualties. He hadn't yet read my email and had no idea what was going on. He said he would try to cash in some favors and get on an even earlier flight if he could. We'll just see. Now watch, the baby won't come for another month.
I told my husband that all that matters is that he comes home to us. I said I will either welcome him home with the baby on the inside or the baby on the outside, but all that matters is that he's safe.
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My heart goes out to the families, I'm glad you were able to talk to your dh this morning.
I will be hoping that the little one stays put! I walked around for weeks at about 3cm, so you just might be able to make it. Take it easy!
Posted by: dutchgirl at February 05, 2010 04:17 PM (Yg8bq)
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Glad she's staying put. Keep it up, girl. Hoping husband makes it home for the birth. Thinking of you often.
Posted by: Stacy at February 05, 2010 06:13 PM (7FV6m)
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Blessings on you all, you are right, the most important thing is getting him home, he is a daddy either way, baby in or baby out. Did they give you an estimated size for her?
Posted by: Ruth H at February 05, 2010 08:38 PM (YpblU)
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I am sooooo glad to hear he is ok! And I am also glad glad to hear your healthy pupa is wiggling and worming and ready to welcome the world and from the sounds of it Charlie is probably just as easer to play with his baby! Hold tough girl! I bet it is seeming surreal so close to the due date!
Posted by: Darla at February 05, 2010 10:09 PM (XvIN7)
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My heart aches for the losses and, at the same time, it swells for you. Babies are totally awesome, especially those who are as loved and cherished since before they were ever a twinkle in your eye. She's got good parents and I can't wait for her to meet you....Lots of good vibes your way.
Posted by: Susan at February 05, 2010 11:23 PM (URuXw)
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You are doing a great job and I'm really proud of you. These big transitions are so hard to wrap your mind around, even if everyone who is supposed to be here is here, let alone when travel schedules, potential early arrivals, and the like enter the picture.
Tell little Miss C. that if Auntie Melinda hears any more crazy talk about setting her own travel itinerary that she will be receiving a very stern talking to when we meet. (That is after I hold her, smooch her, shower her with gifts and try to stick her in my purse and take her home).
Posted by: Guard Wife at February 05, 2010 11:34 PM (5hZjj)
Sarah, I hope you're able to stay off your feet and rest until the baby arrives. Also, that your mom made it to town. Thinking of you, and also of the soldiers and their families in your husband unit.
Posted by: Keri at February 06, 2010 02:24 PM (dtvJC)
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My heart breaks for the two men in your husband's unit.
Hope you are doing well.
Posted by: Ann M. at February 08, 2010 01:33 AM (+GQ3g)
NOT EXACTLY MILHOUSE
I spoke too soon: I will probably not make it a month.
I had an appointment today with my first physical exam. The baby is head-down, ready to go, and so am I: I'm dilated and effaced like I'm already in labor the baby should arrive any day now. In fact, the NP said to be ready any day now.
Baby doesn't seem to want to wait for Daddy.
My mother is leaving tonight as fast as she can. A friend is coming to stay the night with me tonight, just in case. And I had decided that I just needed to put myself on bed-rest and try to stay calm...
And then the phone rang.
Two soldiers in my husband's company were killed.
On the one hand, that gave me remarkable perspective. My husband may not make it home in time for the baby's birth, but at least he still may make it home. This other family is not as fortunate: that soldier won't be coming home to his pregnant wife.
On the other hand, it just stressed me out even more...
Please, baby, wait two weeks. Then you can do whatever you want.
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At 36 week I was dilated and effaced and my doctor said any day now too. At 38 weeks I was told to have my bag ready and all of the numbers by the phone. The day before her due date the contractions started and she was born 28 hours later on her due date. When she is ready she will come, and not a minute sooner!!!
Posted by: Tracey at February 04, 2010 07:31 PM (x+F0t)
Ahhh, Sarah. I went "into labor" 5 weeks early, standing in the cold waiting for a bus that never came in the dead of winter in Wisconsin. Called a cab to take me to admissions. They had me prepped and all, just knowing IT was going to happen because I was dialated and efaced! *giggles* Sent me home the next morning, told me it would be another couple of weeks. I actually went 2 1/2 weeks over my due date.
Don't folks know, that babies don't know how to use a calender or a stop-watch yet? Babies will come when they are dayum good and ready. Just the way it is.
I do hope she hangs in, though, so her daddy can be there for her and you!
Sending up my prayers and well wishes for y'all.
Posted by: jw at February 04, 2010 07:45 PM (spEu4)
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Praying. For you. And Baby. And your Husband. And timing. And those in his Company.
Posted by: Val at February 04, 2010 07:54 PM (JPt9E)
Posted by: Lissa at February 04, 2010 09:51 PM (mgjM7)
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Amen to Val's prayers. And for what its worth, my last baby came 5 weeks after the doc said he could come anytime, that would have been early, as it turned out he was a week overdue. My mother had left younger children at home to come stay with me and mine, pretty touchy situation. Hope you stay preggers long enough for hubby to get home. It is definitely a bittersweet day for you.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 04, 2010 10:14 PM (YpblU)
I'd tell you to keep your knees together, but if you had done that in the first place...
I hope Mr. Grok is okay, and I know how he feels--and know the empathy you have for the families of his men.
But right now, you must focus on you, and the minigrok. Keep the bun in the oven, the cat in the bag, and try not to sneeze or fart to hard. There will be a time to share with, grieve with, and heal with your army families. You are on bed rest. You can't take it upon yourself to do all those protocol/white glove nonsenses. Of course you want to be there with and for them, but nothing you can do or say will make it better--just make sure they have someone who can be there if they need them. Offer to make arrangements for them if need be, but it can't be your responsibility.
And you may want to consider a rubber bedsheet for you, and trying to stay off the furniture.
Posted by: Chuck at February 04, 2010 11:16 PM (bMH2g)
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Prayers for all involved... bittersweet, indeed.
Nicki
Posted by: Nicki at February 04, 2010 11:50 PM (fqQct)
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I was dilating and effaced and told "any day now" on July 1. Baby Boy #1 came on July 29!! Hang in there, she may take two weeks to decide she's really ready to meet the world. My body has a tendency to slowly get ready for labor by doing a bunch of dilating and effacing before labor and delivery actually starts. So, while I started the process 2-3 weeks before my due date, both boys were born AFTER their due dates! LOL Babies have their own unique ways of doing things and they always surprise you.
Posted by: Tracy S at February 05, 2010 10:01 AM (3N/bf)
take care of yorueself and relax as much as you can. I am praying that your guy gets home safe and sound and as quickly as possible.
I will add to the stories from others. My 4th baby, I had a rescue cerclage at 31 weeks and then total bedrest. Birth was imminent and had to be stopped so I wouldn't have a preterm baby. At 36 weeks they removed the cerclage and I was told that I might go into labor within an hour. I ran around doing my thing for another 2 weeks....when they induced me.
Posted by: Sheila at February 05, 2010 02:50 PM (ju0Yo)
One more month until this bouncy baby is bouncing in my arms instead of in my belly. One more month until I am a mother, until I am responsible for someone else's life and well-being. One more month until I test out all the parenting theories I've pondered for years.
It's been nearly three years to the day that my husband and I started trying to have a baby. Three years. One might think that I would be extra-anxious for this last month to fly by. But I'm not. I think I've even managed to develop some patience over the past three years; I am trying to enjoy every horrible moment of this pregnancy because there's always the possibility that it could be my only one. As long as she's not in danger, I'm in no hurry to move faster than nature intended. No matter how uncomfortable I am.
One more month.
And, with as much certainty as one can guarantee in the Army, my husband should be home in roughly half that time.
Posted by: Amy at February 03, 2010 10:55 PM (Cy1WK)
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You look awesome! You are going to be the best mom evah. The only piece of assvice I will spew is this: Trust your instincts. Everything else will come naturally. I have loved being a mom more than being able to breathe. I look at Olivia daily and am in awe of her. I'm losing my baby, but I've gained a little friend with whom I love spending time. I don't know if I appreciate being a mom more because I'm older or if it's because it was a freaking long road to get here and I don't ever want to take it for granted.
Sending lots of good wishes your way.............
Posted by: Susan at February 03, 2010 11:18 PM (URuXw)
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Thank you for sharing this picture with us. I hope your husband can see it.
I can't wait to see the next picture in this series.
Posted by: Amritas at February 04, 2010 01:52 AM (TZltr)
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What a lovely picture!
Enjoy this last month--sending many good thoughts your way.
Posted by: Lee Anne at February 04, 2010 10:56 AM (FXhFB)
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I like how Chris Edwards didn't pull any punches with Bush: e.g,
I can't think of a single crisis that occurred on
President Bush's watch that the Bush-Rove team didn't have an
interventionist and big-spending response to.
I'm surprised that spending didn't skyrocket after 9/11 and the early years of the Afghan and Iraq Wars. The steepest climb is in 2008 - bigger than under Obama in 2009.
As for the other article, it's one thing to read about the phenomenon it deals with, but it's another to see it. Is there any country in the Muslim world where women have become freer in recent years? Here's a quick example of the opposite trend from Afghanistan:
Afghanistan has quietly passed a law permitting Shia men to deny their wives food and sustenance
There's more, but I'll stop there.
The article says the law contradicts the Afghan constitution .... or does it? It's a religious law "backed by the hardline Shia cleric Ayatollah Mohseni" and the constitution says,
No law shall contravene the tenets and provisions of the holy religion of Islam in Afghanistan.
Posted by: Amritas at February 02, 2010 03:13 AM (TZltr)
I HEART ART
If Art Laffer thinks we're boned...well, yikes.
“In anticipation of known tax increases the economy will shift income
and output from 2011 -- the higher tax year -- into 2010 -- the lower
tax year. As a result of this income shift, 2010 will look a lot better
than it should, and 2011 will be a train wreck,†he predicts.
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Thanks for linking to Laffer's article. I just assumed the rest of Obama's reign would be straight downhill, so I didn't expect Laffer's "false recovery." His argument would be stronger if he had pointed out previous false recoveries.
I wonder how the public would react to a federal tax holiday. Unlike bailouts, such a holiday would directly benefit ordinary people without taking money out of anyone's pockets.
Posted by: Amritas at January 31, 2010 09:19 PM (TZltr)
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I know it's an appeal to authority, but I like to think that his argument is strong enough by virtue of his being Art freaking Laffer
Posted by: Sarah at February 01, 2010 08:47 AM (gWUle)
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I think my kids and I will take our normal Halloween tradition of watching scary movies all month long and turn it into watching financial returns.
Much more terrifying.
Posted by: airforcewife at February 01, 2010 01:21 PM (uE3SA)
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I keep thinking about Laffer's recommendation of a one year, nine month tax holiday. The impact that would have on the average American family is astounding. But then, what would we do with all of those IRS workers and accountants? How frustrated would people be when they had to start paying taxes again, and realized exactly how much wealth the system is stealing from them every year. Thanks for the great article!
Posted by: Val L. at February 02, 2010 12:40 PM (F4Qv7)
OABMA TELLS 9/11 HEROES TO GET BENT
Wow. So we can give Landrieu $300 million to bribe her for her vote, and we can give $50 million to relocated wild horses, and build a turtle tunnel, and give tax credits for eco-friendly golf carts...but it's apparently too much to ask for Pres Obama to fund medical care for those dealing with long-term illness caused by 9/11. Nice priorities.
I would, once again, like to reiterate. I did not vote for him, and I tried to warn people.
Sadly, people don't seem to care that he does this stuff. WTH are our priorities?!?!?
Posted by: Amber at January 30, 2010 01:50 PM (kQtM0)
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As usual, our Obamessiah is intouch with our concerns, not yours.
Landrieu is one of us. She can spend $300 million more wisely than mere peasants, I mean, taxpayers.
We care more about animals than you. Horses and turtles, yes, Omericans other than ourselves, no.
And golf carts are our kind of vehicles. We will make you all drive them someday. If they're good enough for us (except when we visit Copenhagen), they're good enough for you. Possibly too good. You should be walking ... within the perimeters permitted by your Soviet-styleinternal passports.
9/11 is ancient history. Let us look ahead to our glorious future of peace with Greater Iran! Islam is peace!
We agree with an American soldier for once. What will be the outcome of all our efforts?
Once we made Iraq an
officially Islamic country I knew that it would become among our worst
enemies. (The same is true for Afghanistan.) I said years ago that the
end result of our efforts will be that Iraq will be a rebuilt nation
better prepared than ever to wage jihad against us.
The US loves to empower its enemies. How many Iranian nuclear physicists were trained in the US? How many Mohammad Alavis haven't been caught yet?
Despite the name he acquired from his father, an immigrant from Syria, Hammami was every bit as Alabaman as his mother, a warm, plain-spoken woman who sprinkles her conversation with blandishments like “sugar†and “darlin’.†[...]“It felt cool just to be with him,†his best friend at the time [in high school], Trey Gunter, said recently. “You knew he was going to be a leader.â€
A decade later, Hammami has fulfilled that promise in the most unimaginable way. Some 8,500 miles from Alabama, on the eastern edge of Africa, he has become a key figure in one of the world’s most ruthless Islamist insurgencies. That guerrilla army, known as the Shabab, is fighting to overthrow the fragile American-backed Somali government.
Posted by: kevin at January 30, 2010 02:01 PM (ke9P1)
CHIN DOWN
I didn't watch the entire State of the Union speech last night; I only caught the last 20 minutes. But what struck me the most in the instant I turned the TV on was something Mark Steyn mentions:
One problem, as Jay pointed out, is that upturned chin. Just as a
matter of angles, it looks wrong on TV. So it would be a problem for
Hillary or McCain or Ron Paul or whoever would have won. But it's worse
for Obama because it plays into the aloof-and-arrogant
meme. I don't know why he does it. Are the prompters notched up a hole
too high? What's the deal? Why doesn't one of his supersmart advisers
get out the wrench and lower them?
He looks like a pompous ass when he speaks. That makes it hard not to hear everything he says through the pompous ass filter.
Watching him list one costly agenda item after another, I couldn’t help
feeling that we need a constitutional amendment that requires
politicians to start promises with the words “I want to take your money
and.†It might be that such a rule would constrain them, since I can’t
imagine anyone having the courage to say, “I want to take your money
and use it to pay off the college loan for that rich kid down the
block,†and “I want to take your money and use it to help your plumber
buy a new wrench.â€
Posted by: Lucy at January 28, 2010 11:58 AM (YNvUz)
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I usually disagree with kevin, but I strongly agree with Kevin Hassett!
"I want to take your money" should be pronounced with the same Transylvanian accent as "I vant to drink your blood." Forget Twilight - the government is the biggest vampire of all.
Hassett was really pulling his punches when choosing his examples: paying off college loans and buying new wrenches. I'm sure others can come up with more appalling examples of government waste.
The government is a virus for wealth and productivity. It wastes and wastes and wastes, and then it expects you to celebrate it for doing so. It doesn’t matter which party is in charge.
Posted by: Amritas at January 28, 2010 12:01 PM (+nV09)
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I loved both links. They seriously make me fall in love with reading posts on my phone when I should be falling.
And I think you could add "his Ivy League college degree while you work full time and take one class per semester for your degree from the online college."
I read a Howard Zinn quote on Big Something (I forget) where he was listing all the forces for good and evil and how America needs to never go to war and always be on the good side. One of the either/or groups was capitalists and workers. Sure some big bad evil capitalists might have come from a house full of money, but in what world did the majority of them get to where they are without WORKing. Doesn't it make sense that they feel ownership for the things the WORKed to achieve. It is that sense that all capitalists are some kind of evil do nothing high atop the mountain spitting at and whipping and theiving from those below that irks the crap out of me. I think a work ethic is something that capitalists value. And it sure beats the pants off the gimme ethic that pervades the message given by The O.
It isn't that they want fairness and righteous equality. They want to be the ones high atop the mountain spitting and whipping and theving from their lessors.
"It's common sense." <--- SOTU quote
Posted by: wifeunit at January 28, 2010 12:52 PM (4B1kO)
BEYOND SILLY
I knew all the teleprompter jokes already and had just taken them as lighthearted ribbing, but this is getting ridiculous. A teleprompter for the elementary school? And now this...for a briefing with like 15 people? Wow. It's beyond silly now. It's frightening how this man cannot speak without TOTUS.
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We're heard all the Obama conspiracy theories: that he's the Manchurian Candidate, a secret Muslim born in Kenya, etc., ad nauseam. They're all nonsense. Here's a new one that's more, um, plausible: Could TOTUS be from outer space? Are we being taken over by alien life forms resembling teleprompters? These creatures obviously don't have a clue about what many Americans want.
Posted by: Amritas at January 28, 2010 11:54 AM (+nV09)
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Yes, we can ... to green, diverse companies for a good cause ("train the next generation of legal professionals" ... our kind of people, presumably specializing in sharia*). Bidding is so capitalist. The USSR didn't need bidding, and neither does the USSA. Once again, we do what the Dubya regime did, and it's OK because we have noble intentions that they lacked.
Courts are allowed to use Hanafi jurisprudence in situations where the Constitution lacks provisions.
A system of civil law is described, but no law may contradict the beliefs and provisions of Islam. It was widely reported that Sharia law is not specifically mentioned, but in fact Hanafi jurisprudence is one of the six branches of Sharia law.
[...]
There is no mention of freedom of conscience, and in fact apostasy from Islam is punishable by death (see below).
The constitution's provisions on religion drew international controversy in 2006, when Afghan citizen Abdul Rahman, a convert to Christianity, was threatened with the death penalty for apostasy. Rahman was released under international pressure on the theory that he was insane and that the case against him had "investigative gaps," and found asylum in Italy. The constitution itself was not changed in response.
Why change it? It is Islamic. Perfect.
Your tax dollars are training the next generation of sharia experts.
Posted by: kevin at January 26, 2010 01:21 PM (+nV09)
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My favorite part is that the goal is to infect the country with lawyers. Of all things. Because everything is better with 25 million dollars worth of instruction and oversight by lawyers. He was as full of shite as the rest of them. No amount of eau de roses will ever cover it up.
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