August 31, 2006
BLAME GAME
MSN taglines are so danged catchy that I often find myself following their links. And today I found
this hunk of baloney under the heading "Is your husband making you fat?"
When we live with other people, we tend to compromise our behaviors. On “Today’s Woman,” we look at whether your husband is making you fat. If you find yourself plopped down on the couch with chips in your hand at night or look in your cupboard to discover it’s filled with cookies, it might not be all your fault.
I find this paragraph so annoying that I don't even know where to start. First of all, if my husband enjoys chips or cookies and wants to use his hard-earned money to buy those items, I most certainly am not required to eat them just because they're in the house. (If you find your teen plopped down on the couch with a beer, is he free from blame because you were the one who stupidly had alcohol in the house and he couldn't be expected to control himself?) It is not my husband's fault if I choose to eat junk and then get fatter because of it; anything I have done to gain weight over the years is my fault and mine alone. I hate this constant blame-shifting. Suggesting a healty diet for both the husband and wife is a wonderful idea, but it's extremely condescending to target women by saying that it's probably their man's fault they're getting fat.
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That's because, if you watch enough commercials on TV, that the Idiot Husband is always taking the healthy snack meal out of the microwave before the Hardworking Wife can snarf it down, leaving her little choice but to gorge disconsolately on the chips and Velveeta.
Posted by: Deskmerc at August 31, 2006 06:19 AM (MK29W)
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Female Victimology - you have to love it. It's ALWAYS the man's fault. I can't tell you how sick I am of that mantra. *sigh* Heaven forbid that any woman take responsiblity for her actions when she can blame the man. It's sickening.
Posted by: Teresa at August 31, 2006 07:24 PM (o4pJS)
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The problem is that you, are tying to place personal responsibility in to a MSM news source and thatÂ’s just wrong. You know that the MSM will never have anyone preach or teach about personal responsibility. But thatÂ’s neither here nor there.
Posted by: dagamore at August 31, 2006 09:27 PM (7IZfE)
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Yeah, look at you. You're fat because you sit around knitting, watching tv, reading, and eating sour cream by the gallon. You can't expect your husband to come home from a hard day at the government teat and drag your big butt away from the computer to do some exercise!
Posted by: Willy C at September 01, 2006 03:15 AM (UHDmC)
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BTW, Willy, you certainly have a bad attitude. I see no reason for peoples' comments to be so downright nasty. Sarah loves a good discussion or debate, but you do nothing of the sort. You and a few others just sling insults, and very personal insults at that. You don't even discuss the subject at hand. And, also, Sarah goes to the gym every day, walks every day, and swims laps every day. Her husband thinks she's beautiful and they are so happy together. So sad you spew insults, and especially personal insults, towards Sarah when you don't really even know her. Yes, I'm prejudice because I'm her mother, but it would do you well to learn a few lessons on life from your mother. I try to find some good in every person, know that people will not always agree with my opinions, and sometimes life is not fair. Those are a few things I've taught my children, and they seem to be doing okay.
Sarah's Mama
Posted by: Nancy at September 01, 2006 06:04 PM (bw5Sm)
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Nice comment, Willy. I can only hope that you were trying to be funny but failed.
Anywho, going back to the subject.... I agree about the blame-everyone-but-yourself for obesity in the US. "It's the Fast Food Companies! It's not YOUR fault!" There's a commercial for a weight loss pill that actually says something like, "You're not making yourself fat; it's the cortizol!"
Whatever.
Posted by: Allicadem at September 02, 2006 07:03 AM (hozcp)
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It's a sad fact that we women, thanks to biology & the need for the survival of the species, have that extra layer of fat cells that the weaker-suriving, male body, doesn't possess. It will keep us warm if we're stuck in a blizzard, but it certainly makes putting on & taking off the pounds tougher than it is for guys. I know if Hubs and I start working out at the same time, it's ALWAYS longer before I see results than he does b/c of this & it is frustrating.
Of course, I can't account for the extra layer of fat that some people appear to carry around between their ears...present company (Willy C) included. That just comes from years and years of not exercising the brain by resorting to junior high, potty mouth of which a mom couldn't even be proud.
Well, I best return to my vat of sour cream. Where DID I put that straw!?
Posted by: Melinda at September 03, 2006 07:25 AM (mMRvT)
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Willy C. - your comment was really rude and inappropriate. I'm a leftwinger the sometimes loses his temper here and says regrettable things, but your comment was just plain unoriginal and uninspiring. I hope to god that you're a republican.
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August 18, 2006
GULP
Bring the troops home now!
From Germany.
As if I haven't said this often enough, our posts in Germany are a huge waste of money. I just came up with another reason why.
Remember my heater in Germany? The one that kept our house at 80 degrees, whether we liked it or not? We didn't have to pay for that heater. Nor did we have to pay for electricity, water, gas, garbage, or anything else. Well, now we have to pay for those things, and I am appalled at how expensive they are. And how much we got away with in Germany on the government's dime.
We now have 1100 sq feet and a gas/electric bill of $130. We keep our house a disgusting 80 degrees now too because we don't want to pay for more. And I can't help but cringe when I think of all my neighbors who opened their windows in the winter because it was too hot in our houses in Germany. Think of all the money it cost our government to pump heat into houses where you can't control the thermostat, houses with an additional 500-600 sq feet. Man alive. Think of all the times we had every light blazing and the TV running all day long. We never had to deal with the consequences of our electric habits.
I told my husband last night that we're going to start lighting this house with candles. I'm far too tight to shell out $130 for electricity. And it will only get worse when we buy a house.
Why, oh why, don't they have thermostats in our houses in Germany?
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$130? I wish! Our electricity bill was slightly below $200 last month and that's LOW for around here! We have a/c but rarely run it. With dh gone, we don't use 1/2 of the electricity that we normally use.
But I hear ya on the Germany issue. As for thermostats...they probably don't have them because they would be "too expensive" to install...
Posted by: HomefrontSix at August 18, 2006 09:54 AM (4Es1w)
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I'm big into energy-conservation and since we've become home owners, I've learned a few tips: 1) If you have ceiling fans, run them because they cost less than 1 cent/hour and can make a huge difference during the summer months 2) Keep your thermostat at 78 during the summer and 68 during the winter and your bills won't be so crazy 3) This is just my thing...I always keep my windows open during the day and take advantage of the sunshine so my lights are usually off until late into the evening.
As you can see, I'm pretty tight with the electricity but it pays! I agree with you...I'm sure the waste in Germany was shameful. If I can keep our electric bill a penny under $100/month, I feel like I'm doing pretty well.
Posted by: Nicole at August 18, 2006 10:59 AM (nTCFk)
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More tips: Don't cook anything for yourself - just order in. Avoid the use of parties - turntables, speakers and dark lights cost money. Play more multiplayer online computer games in the dark. Whittle the number of friends you have down until it's just those you know from other blogs. Knit. Learn to dance to the songs of your dreams rather than the songs on your surround system. Sleeping is also a good way to conserve.
Posted by: Will at August 18, 2006 02:12 PM (TfuSc)
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Yes, I hate it when we have no control of the energy usage. On the other hand, I can control what blogs I read and I always come here for a dose of excellent writing.
I don't knit, but I am a single sailor in charge of a bunch of married guys. Your blog gives me great perspective, esp. since I am deployed overseas and my guys are separated from their loved ones. I gave out your blog address a friend to give to his wife.
God bless and thanks. We appreciate it.
Posted by: Eric at August 20, 2006 09:27 AM (GqGQo)
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I feel your pain on all things Germany, especially the heat, lack of AC and many other things. Although I admit that I miss it terribly in many ways and still want the chance to live their again! Isn't it funny that you can't wait to PCS from somewhere only to later want to go back!?!
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August 15, 2006
IT WORKED
My mother and brother are flying between two big American cities tomorrow. I talked to my mom on the phone today and said, "Well, I love you, just in case." And though we were joking about how they're more likely to be hurt on the way to the airport, and how security will be tight tomorrow, I still got a lump in my throat. And it focused my
laser beam even more.
I saw Nihad Awad from CAIR on TV last night, talking all that "terrorism has nothing to do with Islam, religion of peace, jihad is a personal struggle" nonsense. I remembered that baloney today when I read these harsh words on Ace's post:
Although I've usually been careful to use the preferred term "Islamofascist" as most "resepctable" commentators do, with the occasional sloppy slip-up, as a means of distinguishing peaceful, loyal Muslims from the terrorists--
I'm dropping that practice, as of today. Until the Muslim community can demonstrate it is, in word and deed, as opposed to the slaughter of its fellow citizens as true citizenship in the UK, US, Australia, etc., demand, I'm not pretending we have an "Islamofascist" problem anymore. What we have is a Muslim problem.
If the Muslim community wanted to eliminate terrorism, it could do so within a month.
As it's not part of the solution, it's part of the problem, and it's time to judge it as such.
I'm mad that my mom can't get on a plane without thinking the worst. I'm mad that terrorism has worked on me, that I'm scared today. I hate that after five years of this junk, I have little but contempt for the Muslim community.
Hand me my needles; I need to do some serious aggression knitting.
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I feel the same way about Christians and wars of imperialism. You can't really seperate the two.
Posted by: Will at August 15, 2006 02:39 PM (TfuSc)
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Your snappy comment doesn't make sense to me, Will. You're going to have to elaborate.
Posted by: Sarah at August 15, 2006 04:14 PM (YL5y0)
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Please, allow me to elaborate.
You say (or agree with anyway) that the Muslim faith is directly linked to terrorism because "if the Muslim community wanted to eliminate terrorism, it could do so within a month." And the reason (you must suppose) that the Muslim community can eliminate terrorism is that the Islamic faith controls and heavily weighs on the actions of terrorists. (This, of course, completely discounts real-world, current issues that might influence terrorists - ie: if Muslim terrorists are pissed about Western involvement and presence in the Middle East, they're going to be pissed whether the Muslim faith allows them to or not.)
I look at the history of the world and see the genocide of natives, the empires of Britain and France, the wars by Germany in the 20th century, Vietnam... these are wars of imperalism, whether resource-based or ideological, and they're wars fought by Christian countries that were, and continue to be, horrific monstrosities on a global but very human scale.
If I were to assume things about Christianity the same way you assume things about Islam, it would be very easy to blame all the tragedies of the past on the Christian community and go around calling people Christianfascists.
But that shit is too easy, and most of all, it's wrong, IMHO.
Posted by: Will at August 15, 2006 10:54 PM (TfuSc)
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To quote Joe Dirt, you're focusing on the wrong part of the story.
Posted by: Sarah at August 16, 2006 02:31 AM (YL5y0)
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I have been sitting at my computer for 15 minutes trying to write a comment. These issues bring up such powerful emotions for me. I can't express my feelings.
Everything I have read tells me that Islam is a religion of violence, that they are not interested in sharing the earth peacably with non-Muslims. Maybe I need to read the Kuran myself to see what it really says. I want to believe that the religion teaches peace but I have seen no evidence of that. All I have seen in the news is evidence of the contrary.
I hope your family members are safely on the ground by now.
Posted by: Lou at August 16, 2006 08:25 AM (0+7qK)
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Your Joe Dirt comment doesn't make sense to me, Sarah. You're going to have to elaborate or quote from a better movie. I suggest Wayne's World.
Posted by: Will at August 16, 2006 09:04 AM (TfuSc)
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Will blows goats. I have proof.
Posted by: Sarah at August 16, 2006 12:42 PM (YL5y0)
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All I have to say about that is asphinctersayswhat.
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Posted by: jewboy at August 16, 2006 05:29 PM (CJOXp)
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Yes, your brother and I made it to our destination on Wed. and back home Sat. night. I wonder what would have been going through Will's mind if he was boarding a plane on the terrorists' "D-Day?" I was extremely observant in the airport and boarding the plane. Our seats were near the restroom, and I watched every single person go in and come out. I didn't mind having to take my shoes and jacket off for security, having no lipstick, lip balm, or lotion in my purse (which I always carry), having the TSA search our bags, showing my driver's license at several points, having my purse searched (I made it easier on them because I put all of the contents in a ziplock bag inside my purse), seeing National Guardsmen in the airports and lots of TSA officers everywhere. I also prayed alot! It's sad that the terrorists have made it necessary to change some of the things in our lives that we normally take for granted, but if that's what it takes to keep us safe, then I don't mind the little inconveniences. The only thing I would change would be to do profiling! I really don't care whether it's politcally correct or whether it offends certain people. We have a long list of terrorist attacks to justify it.
Otherwise, it was a great trip, weather was beautiful, gourmet meals, got to do some fun things after our meetings, etc. Really enjoyed it.
Love,
Mama
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August 13, 2006
HUH?
Does anyone else think it's mildly offensive that Comedy Central is running "Red State Weekend" with a lineup of Blue Collar Comedy shows and movies like
Joe Dirt? They're billing it as a "weekend's worth of movies for 50.7% of the country's population." Yeah, because red states like Ohio and Alaska are
so into mullets.
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I find it mildly offensive but I'd rater be a redneck than a liberal!!
Posted by: Jill at August 13, 2006 08:43 AM (BDuJB)
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This is true, Jill. Plus, what's not to like about Blue Collar stand-up and
Joe Dirt? Our shows are better than theirs
Posted by: Sarah at August 13, 2006 09:12 AM (YL5y0)
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Ironically, blue collar shows and Joe Dirt are all produced in blue states by liberals.
Posted by: Will at August 13, 2006 07:59 PM (TfuSc)
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August 11, 2006
DUH
Far be it for me to start talking about polls again, but let me throw a smidgen of perspective out there. The news shows are constantly talking about polls. There seems to be a poll for everything, from presidential approval to whether we should support Israel. And everyone acts like opinion polls mean something. Well, I
got your poll right here:
Some 30 percent of Americans cannot say in what year the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks against New York's World Trade Center and the Pentagon in Washington took place, according to a poll published in the Washington Post newspaper.
While the country is preparing to commemorate the fifth anniversary of the attacks that claimed nearly 3,000 lives and shocked the world, 95 percent of Americans questioned in the poll were able to remember the month and the day of the attacks, according to Wednesday's edition of the newspaper.
But when asked what year, 30 percent could not give a correct answer.
Of that group, six percent gave an earlier year, eight percent gave a later year, and 16 percent admitted they had no idea whatsoever.
These aren't 17-year-old morons; these are grown-ups, people my parents' age, who have no idea when 9/11 happened. And we're supposed to care what people say in polls? Are they polling the same 300 dimwits who think 9/11 was an inside job?
I'd wager a lot of Americans still can't find Iraq, Israel, or Lebanon on a map. They don't know a Sunni or a Shi'ite from Shinola. Yet we call them and ask what they think about world events. Whatever.
(Poll link found via Hud)
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In March of 2003 something like 70% of Americans thought Saddam Hussein orchestrated 9/11.
Something like 60% of Americans think cavemen and dinosaurs existed together.
People are generally stupid, and that's the best thing the Bush administration has going for it.
Posted by: Will at August 11, 2006 10:03 AM (TfuSc)
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P.S. today commemorates the 5th anniversary of Bush receiving the intel message "Bin Laden determined to strike in U.S."
Posted by: Will at August 11, 2006 10:04 AM (TfuSc)
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Isn't it interesting that the president himself didn't know a Shiite from a Sunni from Shinola as late as January of 2003? He didn't get us where we are today with an obssesive attention to details.
Posted by: Herb at August 11, 2006 11:47 AM (S8ZMD)
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Sarah,
It's interesting you brought this up.
When I was in an investing class with The Girl, a woman about 60-ish was looking at some stocks that tanked in 2002. She said something "Yeah, that must have been because 9/11 happened in 2002." I cringed, but didn't say anything. Like you said, it isn't like we're talking about a 17 year-old moron....Sad.
Posted by: Erin at August 11, 2006 04:24 PM (BCKzS)
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TV
My family wasn't a big TV family. The only show I remember watching regularly with my parents was
The Greatest American Hero. When I was six. I didn't really have time to watch TV in high school because I spent too much time on the phone. Man, I spent a whole lotta time on that phone. I didn't own a TV in college and was too busy there to care either.
When I got to grad school, I didn't know the difference between the networks, and I couldn't name a single thing that was on TV. But my roommate got cable. Her family was a TV family. And slowly, she began to teach me the joys of television. I was hooked. I used to walk around pointing out all of the things that I now know about the world because I saw them on TV. It was entertainment plus learning, and I soaked it up like a sponge.
Three years in Germany with a mere 8 channels of AFN was enough to get by on, but since we've been back, I've been feeding my love with a vengeance. What else am I gonna do while I knit teddy bears? (Oh yeah, remember when I said I was burnt out on knitting bears? I lied. I put the stuff away for two hours and then got it all back out. I've made like 5 more since.) Right now, I am completely obsessed with the National Geographic channel. And digital cable DVR. I record programs all the time, and every meal with my husband begins with me telling him everything I learned on TV.
But I have to stop taping the nature shows. I can't take it anymore. Why do they always have to write the narration from the point of view of the prey? Look at me, I'm a helpless sea lion pup, mere weeks old. Oops, I strayed too far from the group and I'm not strong enough to swim back. La di da. Crunch. That's the sound of a great white shark eating the pup whole. It's also the sound of my heart breaking. I've watched elephants killing men, the killer crocs of Uganda, black widow and funnel-web spiders, male dolphins enslaving females and killing their offspring on "Dolphins: The Dark Side", and the Mexican staring frog of Southern Sri Lanka. OK, not that last one. All of these animal shows are really starting to stress me out; I swear anyone who idolizes animals must not really know that much about them. I need to stick to taping shows about escape from Alcatraz and counterfeit money.
Anyway, TV rules. It can be a great learning tool and a source of hours of enjoyment. I also had a roommate who hated TV with a passion and thought that it sucked intelligence away from viewers. Unless of course they were watching a program about Ireland, in which case it was brilliant. For some reason, she had an Ireland fetish, and she even stooped so low as to watch Days of our Lives when they were in "Ireland", i.e. a different backdrop on the set. But no one ever accused her of being reasonable. I agree with Aunt Purl that folks who pretend that they're better than you because they don't watch TV need their chops busted.
A few weeks ago, I made a Kitty Carlisle reference when I was out on a first date. The guy I was with proudly told me that he does not own a television and (insert snotty tone of voice here) had not watched TV in over a year. Looked at me with one eyebrow arched.
Good grief. I mean it's fine if you don't watch TV, in fact I'd probably have a much smaller ass if I myself got out more, but I have about a real short fuse for people puffing up on Holier Than Thou, especially on a first date.
I guess I was supposed to recognize his utter superiority over those of us too weak and shallow to abstain from the TV, but all I just drawled out my best hillbilly accent to inform him, "You know they have them thar TV sets real cheap at The WalMart!"
Needless to say, he was not amused.
Needless to add, it was our first and last date.
P.S. Even though there was no National Geographic channel on AFN, I still learned a lot from TV in Germany:
1. Reading a book can make you a better pilot, especially if you want to be good at what you do.
2. You can't concentrate on raquetball if you're being sexually harrassed.
3. White frat boys who ask you for directions could be terrorists, and you'd never see it coming.
4. Even though OIF rotations are published in Stars and Stripes six months before they happen, you should never ever mention dad's impending deployment on a cell phone or IM.
5. Hamsters can park cars better than most humans in the Amberg parking garage.
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Posted by: laurie at August 11, 2006 09:43 AM (no+Sk)
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I learned that Boris is always listening to your phone calls, and that you should say hello!
Posted by: Deskmerc at August 11, 2006 10:25 AM (15Nko)
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Sarah, this was an absolutely hysterical post!! I love TV too, but I don't get to watch it that much. I *do* think Jim and Ronin watch too much. When I get a chance to watch (typically at 10:00 pm), though, I've found that I only want to watch things that are comedy--in other words, if it isn't on Comedy Central, HBO Comedy, or a funny movie on another channel, I'm not into it.
Kate
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August 10, 2006
UGH
This article via
Hud reminds me of my thoughts
a few weeks ago:
What's Wrong With This Outfit, Mom? I always joke that my mom was lucky that baggy was in when I was young. Umbro soccer shorts and big t-shirts were all the rage; my only form of rebellion was an Avril Lavigne-ish phase where I wore my dad's pants when I was 18. Everything I wore was XL, to the point where a guy in college lifted me up and remarked that I was a lot lighter than I looked! My mom hated the sight of me in my dad's pants, but I daresay she was lucky I didn't dress like kids today (i.e. like a whore). There was a large group of high schoolers at the ballgame last week, and the husband and I kept pointing out things we'll never let our kids wear. He's adamantly against writing on the butt of girls' shorts; I stand firm against t-shirts with suggestive and/or snotnosed punk sayings, like the "I may not be on time, but I'm worth the wait" shirt we saw on a pre-teen at the game. Kids today are a mess.
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August 08, 2006
STILL FESTERING
I've been thinking about what happened on
The View for days now, and I can't seem to let it go. I heard that Barbara was mean to Elisabeth and Elisabeth was mean to Joy, so I decided to go
watch it for myself. I really don't think anyone was mean to anyone. It was a discussion of the morning-after pill; these things can get heated. (I thought the things that commenters said about Elisabeth Hasselbeck on blogs were far worse, but most comment sections are a nightmare anyway.)
What I can't stop thinking about is the Hypothetical Situation that Joy posed to Elisabeth. When we debate abortion, why is it that someone always has to bring up the "12 year old girl who's been raped by her father or uncle"? As if this is the norm and these are the only girls who really need the morning-after pill. I thought Elisabeth was completely right to point out that if we're talking about offering this pill over-the-counter, then the target consumer is not really the rape and incest victim. But abortion is always framed around rape and incest. That's the Rocky Marciano of the abortion debate: "That's they one!" But less than 2% of women who have abortions say they do so because of rape or incest. So why do we always frame the debate around these 2%?
If you're pro-choice, you can't keep trying to trip up pro-life people by throwing in the rape and incest red herring. It's disingenuous. I think being pro-choice is a valid opinion, provided you state frankly that when you say everyone has the right to choose, that means Everyone: the girl who gets knocked up at prom, the married lady who forgets her diaphragm, and even the uppity lady who aborts two of her triplets because buying the big jar of mayonnaise is so middle class. If you have the right to choose and a right to your own body, then you get to choose all the time. Limiting the debate to rape and incest absolutely skews what is actually going on in abortion clinics.
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Thank you for saying that.
I've gotten so tired of debating this issue because people always frame it around those cases. It's because it's a Catch-22 for the pro-lifer - if you say 'no exceptions for rape and/or incest' then you're the heartless right-wing whacko that wants to injure poor innocent little girls. If you say 'ok, there should be an exception for rape/incest' then you get accused of not really valuing all unborn human life, since you're willing to sacrifice the rape victim's baby's right to life.
Rape is an act of violence that deeply violates the victim's power and identity. But abortion is a violent means of ending an unborn child's life. It seems to me if we wanted to try to empower the rape victim by letting her exercise violence towards someone else, that person should be the rapist, not the innocent child that was conceived by him.
(Why won't your blog accept comments from a .edu email address?)
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I don't know why it rejects edu. Our spam filters are a bit out of control; there are so many blogs under the same filter, and we have to block everything that hits any of them.
Posted by: Sarah at August 08, 2006 01:15 PM (YL5y0)
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Back in university me and this girl got wasted at the campus bar and slept with each other unprotected. That what I think the morning after pill is for.
Here's your honesty: I truly believe there's nothing wrong with getting wasted, having sex and then using the morning after pill. What, exactly, is "violent" about a woman inducing her period early?
Posted by: Will at August 09, 2006 09:56 AM (TfuSc)
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Well whaddya know, the greatest argument *for* the morning-after pill is that Will won't father any children.
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July 31, 2006
KINGDOM OF NONSENSE
We got HBO when we moved back to the US, so we've been trying to catch up on movies that we missed while we were in Germany. So far we've been unimpressed with most of them that we've seen:
A History of Violence (too creepy),
Elephant (too existentialist),
War of the Worlds (too Dakota), and most recently,
Kingdom of Heaven.
Roger Ebert writes:
The Muslim scholar Hamid Dabashi, however, after being asked to consult on the movie, writes in the new issue of Sight & Sound: "It was neither pro- nor anti-Islamic, neither pro- nor anti-Christian. It was, in fact, not even about the 'Crusades.'" And yet I consider the film to be a profound act of faith." It is an act of faith, he thinks, because for its hero Balian (Orlando Bloom), who is a non-believer, "All religious affiliations fade in the light of his melancholic quest to find a noble purpose in life."
That's an insight that helps me understand my own initial question about the film, which was: Why don't they talk more about religion? Weren't the Crusades seen by Christians as a Holy War to gain control of Jerusalem from the Muslims? I wondered if perhaps Scott was evading the issue. But not really: He shows characters more concerned with personal power and advancement than with theological issues.
And that's precisely why I didn't like the movie. Orlando Bloom comes off sounding more like a modern campus activist than someone from 1184. His rally speech sounded like a debate on reparations, not the Holy Crusades:
It has fallen to us, to defend Jerusalem, and we have made our preparations as well as they can be made. None of us took this city from Muslims. No Muslim of the great army now coming against us was born when this city was lost. We fight over an offence we did not give, against those who were not alive to be offended. What is Jerusalem? Your holy palaces lie over the Jewish temple that the Romans pulled down. The Muslim places of worship lie over yours. Which is more holy? The wall? The Mosque? The Sepulchre? Who has claim? No one has claim. All have claim!
If Ridley Scott set out to make a movie where the premise is "all religions are equally dumb," then he succeeded. Because it sure wasn't a movie about the Crusades. It just wasn't really what I expected, but in hindsight, I don't know why I was surprised: it's so typical in 2006 to expect a movie where all people could live in harmony if white Europeans would just let them be. Oh, and where the Muslims win the battle of Helm's Deep. I should've seen it coming.
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Well for many of us ALL RELIGIONS ARE STUPID. The creation stories promoted by these religions make no more sense than the "Flying Spaghetti Monster" theory. Religion is the main impedement to the human species getting along.
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A really great film would have attempted to re-create for the viewer the world in which religion was the dominant aspect of life, and help them understand the conflict as its protagonists saw it.
Simply transporting modern attitudes back in time is a trivial exercise.
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GROWING UP
An interesting article via Instapundit:
A Nation of Wimps: "Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the bumps out of life for their children. However, parental hyperconcern has the net effect of making kids more fragile; that may be why they're breaking down in record numbers."
I've managed to connect to one of the least pertinent parts of the article, but I couldn't help but notice this paragraph:
Adulthood no longer begins when adolescence ends, according to a recent report by University of Pennsylvania sociologist Frank F. Furstenberg and colleagues. There is, instead, a growing no-man's-land of postadolescence from 20 to 30, which they dub "early adulthood." Those in it look like adults but "haven't become fully adult yet—traditionally defined as finishing school, landing a job with benefits, marrying and parenting—because they are not ready or perhaps not permitted to do so."
Using the classic benchmarks of adulthood, 65 percent of males had reached adulthood by the age of 30 in 1960. By contrast, in 2000, only 31 percent had. Among women, 77 percent met the benchmarks of adulthood by age 30 in 1960. By 2000, the number had fallen to 46 percent.
Granted, I've only grown up in one era, so I can't really compare my entry into adulthood in the 2000s with someone else's decades ago, but I can't help but feel that people my age are sometimes hopelessly immature.
The husband and I went to a party relatively recently, a housewarming picnic for a couple who just bought their first house. We didn't know any of the couples at the party, so we did a lot of watching on the sidelines, and as darkness fell, so did IQs. By the end of the evening, we stared wide-eyed as married women lifted up their skirts and flashed their thongs to distract single men during their men vs women beer pong game. Yes, you read that right. This party at a 30-something's new house in the suburbs turned into a night that rivaled anything I saw in college. And then of course we sat horrified as people grabbed another beer for the road and drove home.
These people all supposedly had jobs and relationships and should've been considered adults, but I've never felt more out-of-place or uncomfortable in my life. I'm not above admitting that I did some wild and foolish things in my college years, but that part of my life is far in the past now. These couples seemed to be having just another weekend of fun.
I have no idea if their behavior has anything to do with their upbringing or parents. I could speculate that it might have something to do with not being quite ready to be adults yet. I hear that the whole "failure to launch" thing is a real phenomenon in the US, and that people are less and less emotionally and financially ready to grow up than ever before. Could that be a reason why you'd flash your boobs at some random guy while your husband makes another trip to the keg? Is the world too big and scary to leave the comfort of the Fun College Years? I can't say I understand this, since I love every candle I add to my birthday cake; my husband and I constantly play a game where we imagine what we'll do when he retires and we're older and cooler.
I hope I can teach my children someday that growing up is one of the best things you can do. I'm trying to read articles like this and prepare myself, because I want to do whatever it takes so that my child isn't the one lifting her skirt at a housewarming party...
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WHAT?????
Reading this post has made me feel even better about having my 11 year old do his own laundry and teaching him how to cook. As well as having him read the moral compass every day and do essays on what he read even though it is summer break. I was begining to think that maybe his long list of chores and multiple responsibilities were to much but now I might add some things. Ant will be thanking you later in life. LOL
Posted by: Kelly at July 30, 2006 11:11 AM (q+rrW)
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I think of some of this trend could be attributed to our society's increasing love of youth. I guess it could also explain related phenomena...like seeing 40-year-old women wearing teeny bop clothing or seeing old geezers driving tiny sports cars...America loves youth.
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My grandsons, ages 23 and 27, are having a hard time keeping moved out of the home; a hard time growing up. I don't know about others but my daughter wasn't raised to raise kids like that. But her husband had PTSS or whatever, from Vietnam and was not a good husband or father. He is now getting help and we really wish it could extend to the whole family because they are really mixed up. But a lot of their friends are the same. It's a mystery to me, I cannot imagine me or my children wanting to be around each other that much. They want the comforts of home without the responsibility. AARRGH!!
Posted by: Ruth H at August 01, 2006 03:29 PM (gqQRq)
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I was talking about the whole children being kept in bubble-wrap thing with my bf just a few days ago. When I was 5 years old, I was hammering shingles into the roof of our new house (only one storey) with a hammer, while my 9 year old brother was using the air nail-gun. My brothers were fully capable of using table saws and other wood working equipment at early ages, because of my father's wood working business. Now had child services ever gotten wind of this stuff, we would have surely be taken away from our parents, because of child endangerment. However, we were never in danger, since our parents taught us how to use those things. In fact, out of four kids, only one of us ever had a broken bone: my brother broke his pinkie body surfing. Otherwise, there was never any major accident that any of us ever had.
I was also talking to a soldier in my bf's unit, and he was telling me how it was his job as a 9 year old, when he came home from school everyday, to shoot ducks, to keep them from landing in his father's corn field. A 9 year old with a shotgun? most would ask. However, if you teach a child responsibility and give them the mental tools to actually be able to handle things, they will rise to the occasion.
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Your post reminded me of a conversation I had with a mom in NC about six years ago. I asked her if her 16 year old daughter did any babysitting. Her answer was: No, she doesn't work because we really want her to relax and enjoy life before she goes on to college and the adult world of working.
I was speechless(which is rare). When I was 16, I was working part-time after school at a law firm AND babysitting on the weekends. I loved being financially independent ~ as much as a 16 year can be. I still wonder how that teenager, now 21, is doing. I'd bet the farm she is still in the safe cocoon of mommmy.
Posted by: Patti at August 02, 2006 01:30 PM (7bY11)
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It's not just the parents. There are lots of institutionalized ways we are softening up our kids. Schools that don't administer tests or grades becuase kids shouldn't be judged don't help.
I had several "discussions" with administrators in my kids' school who didn't like the testing requirements mandated by "No Child Left Behind" because "some kids just don't test well."
Hello?
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July 27, 2006
WAR OF THE WORLDS
Last night we watched the movie
War of the Worlds. I read the book shortly before we moved and loved it. But the movie added a twist that H.G. Wells never intended: Spielberg made the main character a father. The book was about what one man will do to survive. I used to lie in bed and wonder if I'd have the strength: Could I forage for raw potatoes to eat? Could I kill and eat a stray dog? Could I kill a man who became a threat to my survival? The book made me think about all these things, because the main character was such a powerful figure. In the movie, however, the main character thinks only of
protecting his children, a vastly different concept. One reviewer
said, "Leave it to Steven Spielberg to turn the end of the world into a treatise on responsible parenting." A man will
not do whatever it takes to survive if it means harming his child. The stakes were totally different in the movie, and I prefered the childless protagonist. (Also, if I had to hear Dakota Fanning scream one more time, I thought I was going to beat her senseless.)
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I thought the original movie was better.
Posted by: Jim - PRS at July 27, 2006 11:15 PM (VPbK+)
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Like Jim I only will watch the original - no movie is as good as a book, but the old one was really good sci-fi fun for back in the day.
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July 13, 2006
DMV
OK, time to vent. Remember when we went and picked up our car from the port a month ago? Well, I've been trying to register it for that long. We want to register it in Missouri like our other car is because we're only going to live here for five months. Calling the DMV is even more ridiculous than going there, but I thought I had finally figured out what we needed and I mailed everything in two weeks ago. We got it returned today marked "rejected" because allegedly we didn't show proof of insurance; they returned all the documents to us, including...the proof of insurance paper. I called this morning and was told "whoops" and that I should send it back. But now our temporary plates on our car are expired. Can I tell you how angry this makes me? Someone halfassed his job and now I have no car to drive around for another two weeks while they actually do the job they were supposed to do two weeks ago. And amazingly, some people in this country want the government to do
more stuff in our lives.
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Posted by: Erin at July 13, 2006 08:34 AM (VLM/i)
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We are just going through that. Indiana was going to make me pay sales tax on the purchse price of a vehicle I bought it 2005 and the plates are ridiculous! Luckily, we are moving to Ohio so I have no sales tax to pay on the car and my plates will be $40. It just is always funny because every DMV I talk to, has to research the "military" part and call me back!
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July 12, 2006
SHAMEFUL
If the proposed memorial to Flight 93 goes through as planned, it will be a disgraceful, disgusting monument to the hijackers instead of the passengers. Reading
this information makes me want to throw up. I left a comment on the memorial website; I sure hope that citizen action has some bearing on the final memorial, but for some reason I'm not holding my breath...
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I too left a comment, for what it's worth. I'd rather see a Memorial Wildlife Management Area (hunter access area) created than this abomination. Or maybe a pig farm.
Posted by: Glenmore at July 12, 2006 07:44 AM (h/mwe)
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Cool, I think it's kind of nice. You guys don't understand geo-politics in the least. No wonder your "war on terror" *snicker* is such a failure.
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July 11, 2006
HUH?
I find it interesting that it's OK for a teacher who believes Bush orchestrated 9/11 to
teach a class on Islam because that's "encouraging studentsÂ’ critical thinking by allowing analysis of even the most controversial ideas", but a science teacher who believes in creationism is considered kooky and ignorant. Isn't that kind of the same thing? Maybe we could get people who believe in the tooth fairy to teach dentistry...
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Sarah, really now,
There's nothing in the article posted at LGF that says this professor believes Bush orchestrated 9/11. All it says is that he has "controversial" ideas about it. Show me the link that says otherwise.
If you are correct though, you still have to deal with the fact that the Right likes to have Ann "Wives of 9/11 Victims are Whores" Coulter running around like a transvestite on crack.
Posted by: Will at July 11, 2006 10:22 AM (eIQfa)
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I found the original op-ed that this teacher wrote that set this all off. If you actually read it, you'll figure out pretty quickly that the guys at LGF are idiots. I'm really not sure why you don't know this already. Here's the link:
http://www.madison.com/archives/read.php?ref=/tct/2006/05/13/0605120442.php
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Will -- Clicking on Barrett's name on LGF takes you to this post:
http://littlegreenfootballs.com/weblog/?entry=21313&only
Also, please see Barrett's segment on Hannity and Colmes, where he says, "I don't
believe, I do
know that 9/11 was an inside job.":
http://althouse.blogspot.com/2006/07/uw-911-denialist-appears-on-hannity.html
So, um, he did too say that the Bush administration was complicit in 9/11.
Posted by: Sarah at July 11, 2006 02:11 PM (YL5y0)
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Then he's an assclown. But so is Hannity.
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July 10, 2006
PRIORITIZE
This article over at
Hud's caught my attention, especially since I just finished gagging over
Parliament of Whores. Imagine if we could get government to
think before they spend!
So all the more credit to Mr. Lomborg, who several weeks ago got his first big shot at reprogramming world leaders. His organization, the Copenhagen Consensus Center, held a new version of the exercise in Georgetown. In attendance were eight U.N. ambassadors, including John Bolton. (China and India signed on, though no Europeans.) They were presented with global projects, the merits of each of which were passionately argued by experts in those fields. Then they were asked: If you had an extra $50 billion, how would you prioritize your spending?
Mr. Lomborg grins and says that before the event he briefed the ambassadors: "Several of them looked down the list and said 'Wait, I want to put a No. 1 by each of these projects, they are all so important.' And I had to say, 'Yeah, uh, that's exactly the point of this exercise--to make you not do that.'" So rank they did. And perhaps no surprise, their final list looked very similar to that of the wise economists. At the top were better health care, cleaner water, more schools and improved nutrition. At the bottom was . . . global warming.
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Now that's revealing. Good for you for pointing out their hypocrisy.
Subsunk
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July 01, 2006
WHEW
OK, I loved it. Kevin Spacey was perfect, the plot was good, and Lois was meh, but I never really liked Lois anyway. I thought some stuff was rather Smallville-ish, but I suppose that's inevitable. My heart ached for Christopher Reeve, but Brandon Routh did a good job, though there's no way on earth anyone could believe that Routh was supposed to be Clark Kent at age 35. But who am I to opine on the aging of Kryptonians? Overall, it was definitely worth the price of admission, and thank goodness it didn't come off as campy or multicultural or anything else I kept hearing about it.
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We made plans to go see Superman this afternoon, and then I saw this "truth, justice, and
all that stuff"
article and I could just cry. I honestly don't know if I want to see this movie or not; I keep changing my mind every day.
But now that I know Hud liked it, I guess I can assume I will too.
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Go see it and enjoy it. Don't let someones dislike rain on your parade. Then report back on your take of it.
Posted by: Ruth H at July 01, 2006 10:10 AM (Vaa1m)
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June 26, 2006
GORE
Al Gore was just on Keith Olbermann a few minutes ago; they compared global warming skeptics to flat earthers and people who thought the moon landing was faked. That's a bit of a stretch, people. Then Olbermann said that people who don't believe in global warming are usually people who only think the earth is a couple thousand years old, and Gore starts quoting scripture on why people should pay attention to climate change. What? There are scientists who disagree with the hockey stick and data on carbon dioxide levels, but Gore just dismissed them all as "outliers" and shills. I'm amazed that Gore feels comfortable dismissing a paleoclimatologist as wrong and uninformed: what exactly is Gore's science background? He didn't even bother to memorize some data to refute Patterson; he just waved his hand and declared global warming to be a fact. How convincing...
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Ironic, isn't it, that Olbermann scoffs at those who think the earth is a few thousand years old (right or wrong, there is indeed some evidence...), which implies those who devoutly hold to what they read in the Bible are crackpots; yet at the same time, he gives unquestioned credence to Gore when he uses the same book that nutcases believe?
I am reminded of the '92 nomination acceptance speech: "...the Scriptures say, 'eye has not seen, ear has not heard, neither has it entered the mind of man what we can build.'" Or so said then-governor Clinton. He was (mis)quoting Paul's first letter to the church in Corinth, Greece, the ninth verse of the second chapter (I Corinthians 2:9). I almost went postal when I watched him do that.
p.s. Glad you all are in the States!
Posted by: Jim Shawley at June 27, 2006 04:26 PM (9MvgV)
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This is quite a doozy of a juxtaposition of entries -- you STILL want to believe in the WMD despite out and out gov't reports and everyone admitting they don't exist, but you want to deny the majority of scientists who say global warming is a problem we had better deal with and fast.
Are you joking?
Posted by: question at June 27, 2006 10:30 PM (n17hK)
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So scientific theories are proven by majority vote?
How interesting. Must begin lobbying votes for cheap spacelift and FTL technologies.
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June 20, 2006
HUH?
This article is a bit old, but I couldn't believe it when I read it via Powerline. Just wow. An older married couple gets all hot and heavy and "forgets" to use birth control. The lady can't get the morning after pill in her area, so she gets pregnant and has an abortion. And she
blames Bush for her abortion. Wow. How 'bout blaming your freaking self for not being smart enough to calm down for two seconds and use some danged birth control? Do people ever take personal responsibility for anything these days?
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Bah, people's ignorance always dismays me. NOt only is she trying to play the victim for something she was very much in control of. but she is also ill-informed, and is ill-informing her readers, too. The morning after pill is not the only way to have emergency contraception. Basically that is a dedicated pill for emergency contraception, but you can use your own birth control pills in the
same fashion. You would think someone writing an article like that might have done some research and perhaps looked into alternatives, but she seems to think that was her only option when it came to pills. I am sure she would have been able to get a prescription of birth control pills filled. Plus apparently there is more than a 72 hour window...according to one site I checked you have at least 150 hours. So, that is just in 5 minutes I found that info online...she probably could have saved herself a world of grief if she had done the same.
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I just noticed the link doesn't work. But if you click
here and go to click on "List" for the US, you will get the list of possible contraceptive pills.
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This woman just HAD to have someone to blame for her stupidity, and why not blame Bush he gets blamed for everything else.
It frightens me to think of what excuses she could be teaching her children. Will she blame Bush if her kids come home knocked up ten years from now?
Stop the insanity!
Posted by: Vonn at June 20, 2006 11:52 AM (dEgRi)
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June 17, 2006
GRADES
Ann Althouse posts about a high school with
41 valedictorians. Apparently that school rewards everyone with a GPA over 4.0, regardless of rank. That sucks. I thought my school's system was fair: 4.0 was the highest GPA you could get, but there was an entirely different ranking system for weighted courses. Thus someone who took all "basic" classes and got straight A's would receive a 4.0 but would not be anywhere near the top of the class; someone who took all "advanced" classes and got one B would be salutatorian, and those who took all advanced classes with all A's would be valedictorian. We had 8 valedictorians and 2 salutatorians. (Or was it 7 and 3? See how important it turned out to be?) Among the top 8, we all knew who really deserved honors. I went to high school with people who did relativistic physics for fun and calculus in their sleep. There were also valedictorians who simply knew How School Worked and did what it took to get the necessary A's. It's a shame there was no way to really distinguish between the geniuses and the rest of us folks, but I suppose what they've done after high school is the real proof of their smarts.
Incidentally, several of us got together once when we were graduating from college and compared when we had finally broken our 4.0s. One friend was bummed that he was the first to lose it, but we had to remind him that getting one B at Princeton was nothing to be bummed about!
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Out of curiosity, did you ever take the ASVAB? My oldest daughter just did and I'm proud to say she beat me by a good margin in all categories except one.
R1
Posted by: Randy at June 17, 2006 03:01 PM (0l2IA)
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You know, I did take it, but I have no memory of my score. I've always wondered if it's still on record somewhere or if my mom has my score somewhere in the basement!
Posted by: Sarah at June 18, 2006 02:18 AM (YL5y0)
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I remember taking that test just for the chance of getting out of an afternoon of classes. Imagine my surprise when every service recruiter in the area started calling with offers of some pretty "neat" positions. I'd have to say that my best offer came from the Navy with an offer of going to nuclear power school. (Yeah, like I was going to enjoy riding around in a tin can hundreds of feet below the surface!)
I politely told them all that I was waiting for word from West Point, Annapolis and the Air Force Academy before making any decisions...glad I did!
See you on the high ground!
MajorDad1984
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