ANNOYING
OK, so I love my husband a little less right now.
I need something on his laptop. It is turned off. It is password protected.
I figured I could guess it. My husband is the only person in the world who could know my password based on the prompt question, but he would know it instantly.
My husband's prompt question is absurd. I have no idea what the answer is.
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OK, so I love my husband a little less right now.
1% less of infinity is still infinity:
Pūrṇam adaḥ pūrṇam idam
Pūrṇāt pūrṇam udacyate
Pūrṇasya pūrṇam ādāya
Pūrṇam eva avaśiṣyate
That is whole, this is whole
From the whole, the whole arises
When the whole is taken from the whole
The whole still will remain
- Isha Upanishad
(Pūrṇa literally means 'full' and is cognate to 'full'.)
Is the question in Persian? That wouldn't help.
Posted by: Amritas at February 27, 2009 07:36 AM (+nV09)
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The title of this post also describes the struggle to post comments here!
I must see this message at least a dozen times per day - if not per comment!
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Yeah, yeah, I know ...
Posted by: Amritas at February 27, 2009 07:54 AM (+nV09)
UNSETTLED
I'll admit that I've been watching too much Glenn Beck lately, but I have worked myself up pretty good this afternoon over the future of my country and the world. Hugo Chavez cancelled Valentine's Day, China said flat-out that they hate us, and Iran and Russia are testing nukes together.
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You know my fondness for China, so I immediately clicked on that link and have to say that I agree with the guy...I don't think he means that China hates the US, but he hates it that the dollar has become such a poor investment, because of decisions by our government. Yes, it came out poorly, but I think this is similar to Rush saying he wants Obama to fail. I think Luo meant he hates it that we are cheapening things like this, because the dollar used to be the mighty dollar and now it's not. I don't know, but I read it that way...?
Posted by: CaliValleyGirl at February 25, 2009 12:52 PM (irIko)
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CVG -- I'm not shocked that he means it, I'm just shocked that he said it out loud, so blatantly...and what it means for the world economy.
Posted by: Sarah at February 25, 2009 12:56 PM (TWet1)
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OMG in a dorky way. I was watching him and thinking of you! I bet you like that planetarium coming to IL. So bizarre ... the state of things.
Posted by: wifeunit at February 25, 2009 01:18 PM (t5K2U)
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I agree with CVG about Luo Ping. I was expecting a lot worse. Marg bar Amrika-worse. I'd rather have him say what he really feels than pretend to be our friend.
And I do share your fear about the world economy. When America falls, it will take the world down with it. The Chinese are not the superpower some have made them out to be. Luo may realize how dependent China really is.
Posted by: Amritas at February 25, 2009 03:04 PM (Wxe3L)
"Just the fact that they put a monkey with gunshot wounds in his chest, it gives the idea of an assassination," said Peter Aviles, 48, a building superintendent.
I sure hope Peter Aviles was sufficiently outraged when Death Of a President came out. You know, the movie about assassinating George Bush, not just a drawing of a monkey that some people think was meant to be Obama. (Which I think was a lame cartoon, but not a depiction of Pres. Obama.)
If the President is a Republican, it's fine to call him a "chimp." In fact, it's morally superior. But if the President is a Democrat, you can't call a chimpanzee a chimp lest someone think you might have been referring to the President.
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I am so sick of this moronic cartoon. If any other animal had gone berserk and been shot, the cartoon would have depicted that animal instead. Would Sharpton be complaining if a lion were shot? Probably.
Posted by: Amritas at February 20, 2009 12:36 PM (+nV09)
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I always have to do my deep breathing exercises to lower my blood pressure after reading these posts. The disconnect is. so. *frust*rating.
Posted by: Lucy at February 20, 2009 07:04 PM (HGFog)
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So then following that logic I would say that comparing President Obama to Lincoln and JFK gives the IDEA of assasination.
All I can say is WTF? Srsly?
Posted by: Mare at February 21, 2009 03:15 AM (APbbU)
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Mare,
All comparisons of the One with others are an insult to Him because they violate tawhid. Like Allah, Obama is
... a thing, but he is not like other things; he is omniscient, all-powerful, but his omniscience and his all-mightiness cannot be compared to anything created.
His uniqueness makes me feel thrills up both my legs!
Posted by: kevin at February 21, 2009 06:53 AM (Wxe3L)
BABY MAMA
Last night the husband and I watched the movie Baby Mama. We had thought about seeing it for a long time but we weren't sure if it would make us laugh or make us depressed. It turns out that it made me laugh until about the last ten minutes. Then I hated it, choked back tears, and wanted to strangle someone.
Spoiler alert: I am gonna talk about the end of this movie.
more...
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A shite ending to be sure. Mark really likes saying what Stefani says when the natural birth proponent asks who is gonna use evil bad numbing drugs. Like if you were to ask him 'Do you want some chocolate milk?', he would give that as his answer.
Do you have any idea what I am talking about?! I cannot attempt to spell that. I can but I keep erasing it.
And I really hate the RELAX RELAX RELAX advice. Is there a person on the planet who hears that without their blood pressure rising?
Posted by: wifeunit at February 15, 2009 07:09 AM (t5K2U)
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Yeah, I thought the ending was cheap too. I thought it was good when she told Amy Pohler's character, "um, no, we probably won't ever see each other again", just before they went to the hospital. That was real. And then it went downhill from there...
Posted by: CaliValleyGirl at February 15, 2009 07:50 AM (irIko)
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Dear Wifeunit, I know you hate the relax advice but study after study after study has proven that relaxation techniques improve your chances of conceiving.
The reality is that these techniques may not work for you and you may never have children. I guess you have to decide for yourself how you'll handle your future if that's the case.
Yes, people say a lot of stupid things to try to make you feel better. They are trying to offer hope. They are trying to express the fact that they love you and care about you and hurt for you because you are so unhappy that you don't have a child in your life.
The only thing I consistently hear from people who have infertility issues is that they don't want to hear about hope. So when someone brings it up now I just smile, wish them the best of luck and change the subject or gently remind them that sex, politics and religion don't make for polite dinner discussion.
Posted by: mare at February 15, 2009 08:06 AM (APbbU)
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I just love the movie "Raising Arizona." When you think about it, kidnapping a child is our favorite movie? Well, yes it is. It is such a touching movie.
As for relaxing, what can I say. Apparently it does work for some people. But who can say who that will be? It happened for neighbors of ours who had never even tried because they thought when they got married, 15 years before she would never be able to conceive. They just call it a miracle, I think it must have been. I have known of one case where a woman conceived after adoption and in that case she went on to have another child years later. There are so many different and combined reasons for infertility.
One good thing we do know about you , Sarah, is that you can conceive. It's not easy and it hasn't lasted but it has happened. That is your hope. And it is also a grief.
I didn't mean this to be so grim. Sorry.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 15, 2009 09:18 AM (4eLhB)
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I dunno.
I myself was the "miracle baby" that happened "just as my parents were about to adopt" ... and ended up being the first of five ...
I don't know, both kinds of stories need to be told, because both happen.
Some people get that kind of miracle, I guess; some don't. And I don't really know why. And I guess it must be really, really hard for the people who don't know how their story is going to end ... whether they will get the miracle baby, or not ...
the whole choose your own adventure thing again, where the choice isn't yours ...
for us, we haven't started trying yet ... I'm on the pill until I get out of school, but right after that we're going to start trying, and I have NO idea how easy or how hard it will be.
I don't know. But even if you don't want to hear about the possibility of a "happy ending," I still want to hope and believe for you.
Posted by: TW at February 15, 2009 10:54 AM (ZfS8j)
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Oh. And I haven't seen the movie, so I don't know if the miracle ending was really cheesed up and unrealistic even if that kind of thing does happen on occasion in real life.
Posted by: TW at February 15, 2009 10:56 AM (ZfS8j)
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TW -- I get it; my mother was that miracle baby too. (Her older brother is adopted.) What I object to is when people use those anecdotes as evidence that everything works out in the end. There are plenty of stories that don't have happy endings; it's just that no one tells those stories.
And yes, I am at the point where I don't know how my story ends. It looks bleak now, but perhaps it will all work out in the end. But I just hate when people assure me that I will have a happy ending. There is no reason to automatically conclude that.
Posted by: Sarah at February 15, 2009 11:04 AM (TWet1)
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Well that's not right, no one can assure you of anything in life. Personally I respond on a gut level more to empirical evidence and actuarial data. Perhaps science has tried to sell hope when they should not be in that business at all.
I'm just saying is that there are people out here hoping for you for a good outcome. I hope that you have a happy ending.
And that ending was a cop out but what do you expect from Hollywood. Though I do expect better from Tina Fey.
Posted by: Mare at February 15, 2009 12:16 PM (APbbU)
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And on another grim note - they are called miracles because they are so rare.
My personal opinion though is that any baby is a miracle and a blessing.
Posted by: Ruth H at February 15, 2009 02:36 PM (4u82p)
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In all honesty, I do know a couple, friends of my parents, who suffered through infertility, and never did have kids. They are wonderful people, and chose to do other things with their lives since they were never able to become parents.
But I also know a couple, my husband's aunt and uncle, who tried for 8 years before she quit her high-stress job and they took a long vacation, after which she found out she was pregnant with the first of their 3 children.
It happens differently for all sorts of different people. There is no normal, typical, expected solution for anybody. And I agree, every baby is a miracle - I only wish all the miracles happened to people like you who deserve them, and not to the crackheads and teenagers who don't.
Regardless, I will still keep praying for your little miracle to come along.
Posted by: Leofwende at February 15, 2009 05:28 PM (28CBm)
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My sister struggled with infertility and I said everything I shouldn't. I thought I was being helpful until she sat me down one day and told me to STFU and just listen. She said that me (fertility of a rabbit) saying those things just made it 1,000 times worse. Lesson learned here! So, while people that say that annoy you, they say it out of love. If you know them well enough, do what my sister did and tell them how it does NOT help you at all.
I then took myself to the library, found a book on infertility that had a chapter in it for those trying to support someone going through it. I read that chapter, my eyes were opened to the dumb things I was saying. I changed how I supported her and things were much better.
I am purposely leaving out my sister's "ending" because it may or may not be your ending.
Know that people are praying for your ending to be what you want it to be.
Posted by: Tracy S at February 15, 2009 07:13 PM (gNojb)
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Yeah, I hate it when people tell people with fertility issues that they simply need to relax and everything will happen for them. Seriously? Most of the time it's the people that have never been through it that are the ones saying relax. They've never been the ones sitting there wondering if they will ever get that chance to feel a baby move within them, will they ever get a chance to have that "moment" when they finally pee on that darn stick and see what they want to see. I'm still hoping for you...I will continue to do so on your behalf, so that on those days when you can't, someone out there will be hoping for you!
Posted by: Stacy at February 16, 2009 08:58 AM (d3Lw1)
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oh okay. I see.
Yeah, if they happened to everyone they wouldn't be miracles.
I guess people say those things because some people are happier when they can convince themselves that it is going to happen, in spite of the chance that it might not. Some people find comfort in that sort of blind optimism.
Posted by: TW at February 16, 2009 07:55 PM (ZfS8j)
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I think I mentioned that I already watched this as well. Doesn't that ending totally bite? But yet the first many points totally reminds me of your book preview in a way!
Posted by: Darla at February 17, 2009 02:29 PM (LP4DK)
DOING SOMETHING"
At least we're doing something. What a hollow statement. We don't have any idea if it will work, but at least we look like we care about the problem.
Seriously, everything coming out of DC these days sounds like it could've been dialogue from Atlas Shrugged.
And the Wesley Mouches of the world waste our money...
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This kind of stuff, seriously, makes me want to commit random acts of self-mutilation. Pencils in eyes, paperclips in ears, walking on hot coals...
WTH?!
They are hurrying this along b/c they know the recession (if they stop all the doom & gloom, apocalypse now talk) will begin to right itself in the very near future. It is government meddling that brought us to this point & it will certainly not be government meddling that rights the situation.
I feel a closer connection to those "crazy" colonists who left England behind & then fought for their freedom with every passing day.
Posted by: Guard Wife at February 13, 2009 05:13 AM (N3nNT)
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Well, if they really want to be seen as just “doing something” no matter if it’s right or wrong, may I suggest mass suicide of all those who voted in favor of this crap.(Man, talk about record ratings for C-Span…) There's some Hope/Change I could get behind.
Posted by: tim at February 13, 2009 05:39 AM (nno0f)
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Mass suicide, Tim? How ironic. Who's more alive, you or us? Unlike you laissez-faire, lazy fat cat Republicans, we are aktive. We mesmerize the public with our dynamism! Why do you think they vote for us? They don't want boring old white males who look back to the lame capitalist past. No, they want the cOlOrful vanguard of the sOci@list future, confidently leaping into the abyss. So what if we take down the whole country with us? We'll rise again. We are rich. We are smart. We are rich because we're smart. Let the dumb, bitter God-'n'-gun-clingers sink to the bottom where they belong. They don't deserve to be ikwo. Nothing for them means more pork* for us!
*Vegan halal pseudopork, of course.
Posted by: kevin at February 13, 2009 06:37 AM (+nV09)
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Rambling, cryptically, nonsensical bullsh*t. Perfect, just like the reasoning and justification for the bill.
Hope/Change? Naw, furget dat, it be Dope/Range...all ready on the right, all ready on the left...bullseye! Right between your freakin' eyes.
Posted by: tim at February 13, 2009 10:00 AM (nno0f)
We Are All Socialists Now:
In many ways our economy already resembles a European one. As boomers age and spending grows, we will become even more French.
The article blames the whole thing on George Bush, and trust me, I think he deserves some blame here for his obscene spending problems. But the article was a little too triumphant about laying the blame at Bush's feet and washing Obama's hands of any culpability.
Nestled in this article is a little gem:
Polls show that Americans don't trust government and still don't want big government. They do, however, want what government delivers, like health care and national defense and, now, protections from banking and housing failure.
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We're all French now?
Lovely.
So our old people can die in nursing homes with no a/c while the staff is all on holiday.
On the plus side, that will help with the growing medicaid bills for everyone too old to care for themselves.
Posted by: airforcewife at February 10, 2009 04:28 AM (Fb2PC)
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Just to run the numbers from the first bailout: http://justwanderingthrough.blogspot.com/2009/02/we-get-government-we-deserve.html
I'm afraid to see what they were for the up-for-election Representatives and for this current "stimulus". But in the end, I bet we're getting what we deserve.
Sadly.
Posted by: Meadowlark at February 10, 2009 08:07 AM (SXBsQ)
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Oh, I've never seen such a good time to become personally skilled in the cultivation and use of medicinal plants. Also to get some skills beyond first aid. Especially with this article I saw on Drudge about part of what's in this "stimulus" bill:One new bureaucracy, the National Coordinator of Health Information Technology, will monitor treatments to make sure your doctor is doing what the federal government deems appropriate and cost effective. The goal is to reduce costs and “guide” your doctor’s decisions (442, 446).(emphasis mine, of course)ACK. What happens when the euthanasia movement gains more traction???
And I feel the need to blog about it, but I'll just state it quickly here: "We" are NOT all social-ists.
Posted by: kannie at February 10, 2009 08:27 AM (iT8dn)
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When the revolution comes it's not going to be pretty.
Posted by: Mare at February 11, 2009 03:38 AM (APbbU)
Posted by: Amritas at February 11, 2009 04:51 AM (Wxe3L)
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By Barack, at last, my dream is coming true ...
We are all ikwO now.
Can't help but do a victory dance at the grave of capitalism.
The words just roll off my tOngue:
Sarah ... soci@list!
airforcewife ... soci@list!
kannie ... soci@list!
Mare ... soci@list!
So how does it feel to be my cOmrades? Let's make revOlutiOn together!
Why can't we be friends?
All is fOrgiven if you say the soci@list shahada:
"There is no one but the One."
Posted by: kevin at February 11, 2009 05:11 AM (Wxe3L)
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@kevin - LOL :-)
I believe the appropriate response is actually to rip off my hood and "show them how an [American] dies!!!" ;-)
Posted by: kannie at February 11, 2009 02:44 PM (iT8dn)
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I hope we will still recognize America by the time we get a chance to vote Obama out of office, and maybe the American public will have a serious case of "buyer's remorse" for giving control of both houses of Congress to the Dems when the 2010 mid-terms roll around. One can only hope. My fear is the damage done before then (especially with all those little things tucked away inside this "emergency" "stimulus" package that they are all in too much of a hurry to pretend to notice, or for US to get wind of it).
Posted by: Miss Ladybug at February 11, 2009 09:09 PM (paOhf)
PAIN IN THE NECK GUESTS
As I was working today, I thought back to another quote from that Wal-Mart article that resonated with me:
As I patrolled the aisles, repositioning misplaced items and filling gaps in the shelves, I realized that Wal-Mart "guests" really are like guests. They are visitors who move things around and create a mess before they go home. Cleaning up after them was not very different from doing housework.
I've never been one to shove items where they don't belong, but now that it's my job to un-shove, I am even more diligent about it while shopping at other stores. I make sure to take unwanted items right back where I found them.
I spend a lot of my time putting stuff where it belongs. It never ceases to amaze me that I can almost hear a shopper's inner monologue: "I want to buy this purple yarn...(walks around the corner)...No, wait, I want this purple yarn...I'll just shove the three balls of other purple here, whatever." I am constantly pulling purple out of green and green out of orange, all day long. And taking cake decorating and beading supplies back to their own parts of the store.
It's ridiculous how many people just drop stuff wherever they are in the store.
Oh, and also how I spent two hours of my Christmas Eve making a pirate ship that was manhandled and destroyed within days of putting it on the shelf.
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PAIN IN THE NECK GUESTS
As I was working today, I thought back to another quote from that Wal-Mart article that resonated with me:
As I patrolled the aisles, repositioning misplaced items and filling gaps in the shelves, I realized that Wal-Mart "guests" really are like guests. They are visitors who move things around and create a mess before they go home. Cleaning up after them was not very different from doing housework.
I've never been one to shove items where they don't belong, but now that it's my job to un-shove, I am even more diligent about it while shopping at other stores. I make sure to take unwanted items right back where I found them.
I spend a lot of my time putting stuff where it belongs. It never ceases to amaze me that I can almost hear a shopper's inner monologue: "I want to buy this purple yarn...(walks around the corner)...No, wait, I want this purple yarn...I'll just shove the three balls of other purple here, whatever." I am constantly pulling purple out of green and green out of orange, all day long. And taking cake decorating and beading supplies back to their own parts of the store.
It's ridiculous how many people just drop stuff wherever they are in the store.
Oh, and also how I spent two hours of my Christmas Eve making a pirate ship that was manhandled and destroyed within days of putting it on the shelf.
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I think there should be some sort of cart at stores where people can put back stuff they are either too lazy to put back themselves, or just can't remember, just like the cart at the library, where they basically plead with you not to put the book back yourself, because they are afraid you will do it wrong and it will be lost forever until they do some general inventory. I think that would save a lot of time for stores, and appeal to customers' sense of entitlement that they don't have to put things back, because that is a part of customer service.
Posted by: CaliValleyGirl at February 09, 2009 12:59 PM (irIko)
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That's a great idea, CVG! It would have saved Sarah a lot of time today.
Too bad it doesn't work 100% for libraries. Out of hundreds of books that I borrowed from the University of Hawaii library over a decade, only one was lost forever after I returned it.
Like Sarah, "I make sure to take unwanted items right back where I found them." And I think long and hard about buying something so they're not unwanted (and end up far from their original aisle).
I'm sorry about the ship's sad fate. Poor foamie. I had assumed the display models were under glass.
Posted by: Amritas at February 09, 2009 02:05 PM (Wxe3L)
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Heh. I worked at a Michael's during graduate school. Incredibly, the messiest were the "fine art" people. Expensive oil paints with lids off and laid anywhere in the aisle or elsewhere, for example. But yeah, the whole store was just a big playground for misplaced items.
I had an incredibly dense and power-tripping manager with no concept of incentives. The reward for those of us who did our "housekeeping" on our own departments quickly at the end of the night was ... to be commanded to help the slowpokes. Ugh.
Posted by: Anwyn at February 10, 2009 06:18 AM (dzxw9)
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Anwyn -- I am lucky that my managers are both cool. One thing I've noticed is that they always say "Bye! Thank you!" at the end of my shift. I chuckle every time they thank me for working, but it fosters a good environment. I feel appreciated.
Posted by: Sarah at February 10, 2009 06:26 AM (TWet1)
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I think that is what is considered, in some form, job security. They need 'somebody' to straighten it up. Atleast, that is how I dealt with when I worked retail. If customers were clean, could answer their own questions, find what they were looking for, why would the store pay me? That is how I dealt with the slobs.
Posted by: rayanne at February 10, 2009 03:25 PM (l/CzG)
A SAFE ZONE
I didn't see Jay Nordlinger's My Kingdom For a Safe Zone when it came out, but I just saw that Varifrank linked to it. The stories are all too familiar, but the very last one is just abominable.
My personal philosophy is to always assume that I'm surrounded by Democrats. I never assume that someone agrees with me until I have it 100% confirmed, on his initiative. And even then, I am quite reluctant to go the full nine yards.
Only once have I heard a conservative make me uncomfortable in public like this. I was at my knitting group and a woman stopped by to see what we were doing. We told her we knit for preemies, and she remarked that she couldn't believe how tiny the little caps are. And then she said, "These babies can be born so small and still survive, and that's why I am pro-life." She continued talking for several seconds about abortion, and my eyes were like saucers. I am screaming in my head, "What are you doing, lady? Why do you assume that people want to have this conversation in the middle of a yarn store? Don't you realize you're being confrontational and controversial?" I found it horrifying, in the exact same way as when random tourists on the Vegas monorail blab on about Bush.
Despite the fact that I was sitting with a group of elderly women who knit for charity, I have never assumed that they are conservative or pro-life. I always assume that they disagree with me and that I should keep my mouth shut.
Sadly, these clods Nordlinger's readers wrote about haven't gotten the hint.
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Isn't it amazing that we were supposedly living in a repressive Bushaitanic police state until the inauguratiOn, and yet you felt the need to keep your mouth shut even though you were on the side of the eeeevil regime?
I'm keeping my mouth shut, no matter who's in office.
Very frankly, I'd rather be raised by wolves than by humans.
What is with this need to show off one's beliefs at every conceivable moment? "Look at me! I am gOOd!" The endless craving for approval is embarrassing. It shows that these people need to be validated by others. To be alone, to be unapproved - that is their worst nightmare. They must keep up with the latest definition of cOrrectness. They are creatures of fashion. Is that what humans are? Shouldn't our species be something more?
Posted by: Amritas at February 07, 2009 03:11 PM (Wxe3L)
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Honestly, I have a hard time keeping *all* of my thoughts to myself unless it's a completely inappropriate time. It's just part of who I am; so much of what I do is motivated by deeper feelings and reasons, that it's all just integrated as one natural whole of my life at this point. The reasons that I pipe up are 1) because I feel that it's necessary to stand up and be counted, one way or another - I hold myself responsible for tacit consent; and 2) the truth matters - whether it's popular or not, it needs to be heard.
(The feeling that I'm sufficiently skilled to *articulate* the truth as I understand it, OTOH... is that narcissism, or just duty-bound confidence? Well, whichever, it's necessary for blogging, at least, right? ;-)
However, there are ways to express opinions that are less offensive (or even inoffensive to reasonable people); and I think *tact* is in short supply in society. People can disagree and still be respectful and/or civil. (No sophomoric jokes about the President's daughters, for example.) And if you never pipe up when you could be in the minority and have something to offer, (cowed by political correctness or just plain old fear), the majority remains ignorant; and in some cases, *dut-dada-DAH* Stupid Things can happen.
That said, I would NEVER bring that sort of thing up while functioning in an official capacity at an event whose (? "which's?") purpose is not specifically politically-geared or tailored to that particular audience. It would be irrelevant *at best*. (That "classless society" quip was priceless, BTW.) Fluid, interpersonal dynamics are one thing; formal environments and ceremonies are quite another.
Posted by: kannie at February 07, 2009 09:47 PM (iT8dn)
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I do the same thing except the other way around, of course. No dems in Texas really. I was at a party a few weeks ago and my dad and husband both called me out at dinner to a bunch of conservatives. No big deal if they're friends right? Well, two of them I know for sure will neither ignore my dem-ness nor discuss things without argument or acustion or getting angry. And of course they started to ask questions, I politely diverted the answers elsewhere but they still got mad. I was so embarassed that that problem had to come up. My dad and husband later apologized for putting me on the spot like that.
I'm very good with guaging whether a person will talk politics with me but most of the time I feel such conversations go no where good. Even with people who agree with me, sometimes!
Posted by: Sara at February 08, 2009 05:21 AM (BmNMZ)
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Usually I am the same; I just keep my mouth shut in general. But a couple of weeks ago walking to the bus after a long, frustrating day at work, after the third Greenpeace guy shoved a clipboard in my face and wouldn't leave me alone, I finally exploded with "No! I'm an 'evil conservative'; leave me alone!", and it worked. He looked surprised, and actually backed off.
I have to admit that it felt good. I smiled to myself for a while on the bus ride home that day.
Posted by: Leofwende at February 09, 2009 06:56 AM (jAos7)
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Leofwende, I'd have done the exact same thing if I were you. There is a proper time for outbursts. You were defending yourself against aggression in an explictly political situation. That's a rare circumstance for me. At work I never hold back when it comes to work-related matters. But politics? Religion? Not relevant and not worth fighting over as long as I'm in the office.
Posted by: Amritas at February 09, 2009 07:40 AM (+nV09)
BOGGING DOWN THE SYSTEM
I grew up in a state that didn't require vehicle inspections. This is a new and highly annoying process for me. I just sat for an hour and a half so they could tell me that my three year old car isn't a safety or environmental hazard. What a surprise. And I got to pay $30 for the pleasure...and I go back on Monday with our other car.
All that waiting was giving me flashbacks to the emergency room last Friday. There was one story I haven't yet told from that night.
I decided to go to the emergency room because it was a Friday night. If it had been any other day of the week, I would've waited it out and called the next day for advice. But since I already had the procedure booked and needed to know if I should continue with the meds or stop, and since I know someone who nearly died from Clomid complications, I decided to play it safe.
It's darn near impossible not to eavesdrop on other people in the emergency room. All that separates you is a curtain, so all night long my husband and I were also privy to the medical business of the patient next to us. I am not going to reveal any details, but their presence was baffling and a tad infuriating.
The gist is that the daughter had a chronic problem that had been happening for months. The parents were separated and the mother was "too lazy" to make the kid an appointment. The dad said that he works here in the hospital and had asked colleagues about his daughter's problem, but since it persisted, they wanted to have it checked out.
On a Friday night. In the ER.
There was no emergency, no sudden change in her condition that made them feel that treatment was necessary, nothing like that. This dad just brought his three kids in to spend the night in the ER. My husband and I were there for eight hours, until 5 AM, and this family had arrived before us and was still there when we left.
That is not an emergency.
This family was clogging up the ER and making me and, more importantly, other people with more pressing problems wait longer. They were sapping resources. If you work in the hospital, can't you find the time to make an appointment for your daughter? Why are you taking care of a child's chronic health problem in the middle of the night on a Friday?
Because you don't have to pay anything either way, that's why.
Why make a regular doctor's appointment during the week, and have to ask for time off work and take the kid out of school, when you could just bring everyone to camp out in the ER all night. There is no cost difference, so it's just easier to do it off hours.
No wonder it took me so long to be seen. And I feel even worse for the guy with the gall stones; he really would've liked to have been treated faster.
I am sure that this family isn't the only one of its kind. They bog down the system for all of us. A problem that's been going on for three months is not something that requires ER care on a weekend. Make a normal appointment and free up that ER doctor for someone who really needs him.
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Just wait, it'll get better once itÂ’s all nationalized.
Posted by: tim at February 06, 2009 07:20 AM (nno0f)
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The ONLY way I could give this dad a break is if he doesn't have custody of the kids & only had them on a weekend. Of course, urgent care would be better & the ER is not meant for these kind of things & it makes it harder for everyone else to be seen when folks like that are taking up a bed...I think it's dumb what he did, but I could see him being an either/or, all or nothing kind of thinker & just taking her where he knows people not thinking to the next step that this is the EMERGENCY room.
Posted by: Guard Wife at February 06, 2009 08:44 AM (N3nNT)
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At least you weren't 'shaken' (車検
up ... Japanese-style:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motor-vehicle_inspection_(Japan)
Before a test can be administered on a vehicle the owner of the vehicle must call up a shaken [Japanese official car inspection] center and make an appointment by phone after which the owner must fill out paperwork at the center. The cost for the shaken is broken up as follows: 1,400 yen for paperwork and processing, 25,200 yen for the testing, 29,780 yen for 24 months of validity and 8,090 yen for the "Recycling Department" with fees being added depending on the vehicle and its intended use (business, personal, commercial, etc.). These variables can result in a shaken costing from 100,000 to 150,000 yen or more.
That's equivalent to US$1,100-$1,600 per car!
Posted by: Amritas at February 06, 2009 11:01 AM (+nV09)
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tim, slowly you are becoming a gOOd persyn. Healthkare will get better. You are beginning to see the benefits of a tOtal cOntrOl ecOnOmy. Once gOsplan takes over, everything will be fairly allOcated: wagyu steak for us, Soylent Green for you.
Guard Wife, there is a simpler explanation. The androppressor was a member of the nOmenklatura:
The nomenklatura were a small, elite subset of the general population in the Soviet Union and other Eastern Bloc countries who held various key administrative positions in all spheres of those countries' activity: government, industry, agriculture, education, etc. The nomenklatura was analogous to the ruling class, which Communist doctrine denounced in the capitalist West.Without exception, they were members of the Communist Party.
An Officer of the peOple always takes precedence. This is the true equality of sOci@lism.
Never give the state control over your life, because they won’t “take care of you” - they will make a token effort and leave you up the creek when it suits them.
- James Hudnall
Posted by: kevin at February 06, 2009 11:25 AM (+nV09)
5Never give the state control over your life, because they won’t “take care of you” - they will make a token effort and leave you up the creek when it suits them
הוו זהירין ברשות, שאין מקרבין לו לאדם אלא לצורך עצמן: נראין כאוהבין בשעת הנאתן, ואין עומדין לו לאדם בשעת דוחקו
אבות ב,ג
Be wary of the government, for they don't relate to anyone unless it is in their own interest: They appear to like [one] when they benefit from it, and they don't stand by him in the hour of his need.
Avot 2:3
Posted by: David Boxenhorn at February 07, 2009 07:17 AM (/8I3y)
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My sister is an RN in an ER. The stories she tells
(and has told for years) make you realize that a
significant portion of our population don't have
a whole lot of common d@mned sense.
Posted by: MaryIndiana at February 10, 2009 03:20 AM (alEvL)
We should be suspicious when politicians, economists and the media declare a "consensus" and marginalize dissent. President Obama says, "There is no disagreement that we need action by our government, a recovery plan that will help to jumpstart the economy."
That's not true. Last week, the Cato Institute ran a full-page newspaper ad signed by more than 200 economists, including Nobel laureates stating:
"We the undersigned do not believe that more government spending is a way to improve economic performance. More government spending by Hoover and Roosevelt did not pull the United States economy out of the Great Depression in the 1930s. More government spending did not solve Japan's 'lost decade' in the 1990s ... Lower tax rates and a reduction in the burden of government are the best ways of using fiscal policy to boost growth."
Doesn't that sound remarkably like global warming? There's no debate, everyone agrees, blahdy blah, and meanwhile the peanut gallery is saying that actually they don't agree.
My father is fond of saying, "Don't cloud up the issue with the facts." How fitting.
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My dad says something similar: "Don't confuse me with the facts, my mind's already made up!"
The next person who whines to me about how the Republicans are being selfish for voting against big spending bills is gonna get it. Maybe I'll ask them for 90% of their money (even if it's $5). Then, when they don't give it to me, I'll tell them they're selfish, because they're not stimulating my economy. If they spend that $5 on me, they'll get richer! That's how it works, right?
By the way, Sarah, did you listen to Glenn Beck's show yesterday morning, or watch it in the evening? Did you hear/see him play the Al Gore speech, or talk about Pelosi's 500 million lost jobs? HI-LARIOUS.
Link to the Gore speech (in case you didn't hear it), and Link to "Nancy Pelosi is an Idiot". Hee.
Posted by: Deltasierra at February 05, 2009 05:27 AM (fPHZv)
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Pelosi also appears to have been under the belief that natural gas is not a fossil fuel. I'd guess her "reasoning" process went something like this:
--fossil fuels bad
--natural gas good
--therefore, natural gas is not a fossil fuel
Posted by: david foster at February 05, 2009 06:03 AM (ke+yX)
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B-but david, anything "natural" must be gOOd! The "natural" sticker on my SUV exonerates it!
Sarah, "facts" are a Europpressive invention, a white cloud that mars the dark beauty of the imaginatiOn, the dreams of Our father, the audacity of hOpe.
The Cato Institute's 200 "economists" probably all got degrees from the University of Phoenix. A for-profit institution, of course. The greedy pay each other to reinforce their delusions. When will they ever realize that the money tree is real?
Deltasierra, I would ask for 100% of everybody's money. I know best how to spend it. I am a professor. I am smart. "From each according to his ability, to each according to his need," said Marx. My ego has needs. Appease it. Do your duty.
Posted by: kevin at February 05, 2009 06:46 AM (+nV09)
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This is yet another example of the sociocentric worldview I dealt with in this comment. "Consensus" is meaningless by itself. Facts are independent of people. If X is false, and everyone believes X, does that make X "true"? Reality is not determined by majority vote.
Nor is it determined by minority vote. A conspiracy theory gets no points for being embraced by a handful who believe they are more perceptive than the blind sheeple.
"I believe it, so it must be true."
"Lots of experts agree with me, so it must be true."
"Only my little gang agrees with me, so it must be true."
All three variants of the same belief are false.
Posted by: Amritas at February 05, 2009 07:00 AM (+nV09)
MULTIPLES
Julie at A Little Pregnant has a good post up about the octuplets lady. She says it all.
What I'd like to tangentially say relates to multiples. Two years ago, I would've freaked out to get pregnant with twins. I thought fertility drugs were scary and that people who risked having four to six babies were insane.
But a lot has happened inside my head in two years.
Now I am definitely keeping my fingers crossed for twins or triplets. I don't want to go through any of this ever again. I now understand the desperation people feel when they opt for riskier options. I will be thrilled if I have twins. I would prefer it to one baby.
Again, this is tangential to the octuplets lady. She is nuts.
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You are anything but nuts.
That's why I was looking forward to what you had to say about Suleman. But yeah, Julie - and her readers - already said it all. Thanks for the links!
I've never been turned off by the idea of multiple births. It's the context of this particular instance that disturbs me. She's sui generis, and in a pretty bad way. I don't want anyone to think you are anything like her.
Crossing my fingers for multiples. The world needs more people like you.
Posted by: Amritas at February 03, 2009 04:18 AM (r1L2i)
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BTDT. Two years and all this stuff does a LOT to a person. And I, too, became comfortable with multiples. In fact, after my first, even remotely successful cycle on fertility drugs, my dr. flat out cancelled due to 5 mature follicles with the statement, I don't do litters. We can not and will not let this happen. At the time, that made me insane, I mean really this was the only positive progress I'd had in years. In retrospect, this is why people are so heavily monitored. It's a PITA, but really, somewhat necessary. And AMEN, thanks for all the ruining all the progress made in public perception of fertility treatments.
Posted by: Lane at February 03, 2009 05:02 AM (PxBhW)
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Hi, I'm Susie. I'm a French student in Pitzer and I have to write about a true event that happened in my college like Capote did in In Cold Blood. (it's for a writing class)
I've chosen the case of Kerry Dunn and I've seen you posted messages about her.
Did you know her before? Did you attend some of her classes? Can you speak a bit about you as a student in the College when it happened?
Thanks in advance for your answers.
Posted by: Susie at February 03, 2009 11:02 AM (XZXkl)
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Sarah - Thinking of you.
As a side note, one of my best friends has a really interesting birth story - in fact, it was just published in a book. It was an interesting read for me, who was there for her thru it all, however to read it thru her eyes.
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