July 06, 2009

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"If I stay pregnant..."  That phrase gets said around our house often these days.

On the 4th, we had The Talk, the one every military couple has to have right before deployment.  But this time with a twist...

If something happens to you, where do you want to be buried?
If I stay pregnant and something happens to you, do you want me to name the baby after you?
If I stay pregnant and something happens to one of your teammates, do we want to name the baby after him?
If I stay pregnant but something happens to the baby later on, where do we want it to be buried?
If I stay pregnant but something happens to both of us, do we still want to choose the same guardians we chose three years ago?

So we answered all questions, staying as detached as we could from what they mean.

But when I had a tiny bit of bleeding last night, I realized something: No matter how much you think you're not emotionally invested, you actually are.  You actually want this to work out.

And it sucks lying in bed figuring out the probability of flipping four tails in a row.

I have an ultrasound scheduled for 12 hours after my husband is scheduled to deploy.  How's that for emotional torture?

Posted by: Sarah at 07:05 AM | Comments (17) | Add Comment
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1 Having a child is scary- you just hope and pray the whole time the baby will be born healthy and happy, and then spend the first several months checking on the child over and over, fearing for SIDS or something.  It's scary.  But that just means that you love him/her- that means you care.  I suggest that you discover your faith and the power of prayer- I'm not one to preach, but from own experience, it is the only thing that works.

Posted by: A Conservative Teacher at July 06, 2009 07:37 AM (XUk9b)

2 I suppose that most of those questions are what every military family goes through....except for the prefix "if I stay pregnant." Normal pregnancy usually has a tiny bit of bleeding at some point, but we all know you have never had a normal pregnancy. FWIW I will be praying for you, for your baby and for your emotional health. Even the most reasonable woman has ups and downs caused by hormones and a miscarriage causes some real swings. And I pray you DO stay pregnant. 

Posted by: Ruth H at July 06, 2009 10:08 AM (Y4oAO)

3 *Praying for all of you.  Hug*

Posted by: FbL at July 06, 2009 10:38 AM (HwqvF)

4 If something happens to you, where do you want to be buried?'
In the ground.  Otherwise, load my ashes in the post cannon and shoot me at the parade field. 
If I stay pregnant and something happens to you, do you want me to name the baby after you?  Only if it's a boy.  Russel is a silly name for a girl.  Or, name it after Chuck.  He's responsible anyway.
If I stay pregnant and something happens to one of your teammates, do we want to name the baby after him?  Let him name his own kids.
If I stay pregnant but something happens to the baby later on, where do we want it to be buried?  We'll burn that bridge when we come to it.  For now, stay pregnant.  I have two kids and have never considered this question.  (Although have pondered where I might hide the bodies of other kids' parents...)
If I stay pregnant but something happens to both of us, do we still want to choose the same guardians we chose three years ago?  Considering that Chuck did such a good job with his, and you can't see the marks from the shock collars, that's always an option.

Posted by: Chuck at July 06, 2009 11:07 AM (aY7Ir)

5

Well, I would vote for John & Beth at the Castle of Argghhh!  Lots of chicks and ducks and little lambs to play with.

Seriously, you're in my thoughts, kiddo.

Posted by: Maggie at July 06, 2009 01:18 PM (XiJJE)

6 Hopefully, you won't stay pregnant the entire time he's deployed.

Unless he's in the Air Force. They call their deployments "Working Weekends"...

I second Maggie's seriousity, though, and FuzzyBee's prayers.

Posted by: BillT at July 06, 2009 01:50 PM (td2Cv)

7

We'll teach him/her to shoot, too.

We'll put silver wings upon their breast.

We'll make 'em one of America's best.

They'll be a troop they'll test one day.

We'll make sure they get a beret.

Of some color.

If they want to.

Or, SWWBO will make 'em potters or something.

But we'd really rather you did it yourself.  C'mon, who wants to be raised by a guy who looks like Santa Claus?

Posted by: John of Argghhh! at July 06, 2009 01:53 PM (qzoN5)

8

I like Chuck's last suggestion, but get the non-use of shock collars in writing before you finalize the deal. 

@Bill - Since her hubby is currently scheduled for a 9-month deployment, yes she will be pregnant for the entire time.

We hope, and pray. 

Posted by: Barb at July 06, 2009 01:57 PM (73rZ9)

9

Hey!

I didn't realize you were preggers again... HOW WONDERFUL!  I don't need to tell you that I hope everything works out beautifully this time. 

Here's my strange advise for names:  Don't name your child after a deceased person.  I was named after my Dad's sister who was killed, along with her 18-month-old baby, on Christmas Eve by a drunk driver. I always thought that I'd die in a similar way, at a similar age, with one of my 18-month-old children.  And my Mom always thought the same thing about me!  Fortunately we were both wrong- I'm well past 24 and my kids are well past 18 months.

Chosing a guardian is a very important thing.  You must have complete trust in them.  In other words... don't chose Chuck.... ;-)

Posted by: AFSister at July 06, 2009 02:14 PM (2Nifp)

10 Oh, and Bill - have Carborundum check with ANGCOM and see if a GA is available to mentor this one along, 'k?

Posted by: John of Argghhh! at July 06, 2009 02:24 PM (qzoN5)

11 Wow...That will be an interesting 12-hour ride. Talk about a roller coaster.  Sending thoughts and prayers that all is well.

Posted by: Courtney at July 06, 2009 04:04 PM (FKcYB)

12 Thinking of you as always.

Posted by: Guard Wife at July 06, 2009 08:00 PM (M+hWl)

13 Big hugs and lots of good thoughts and prayers.

Posted by: Reasa at July 07, 2009 12:53 AM (U40Ss)

14 Boo on the roller coaster aspect of this.  Boo hiss.

Posted by: wifeunit at July 07, 2009 08:21 AM (t5K2U)

15 Ruth H, I'm glad you commented on bleeding because I was initially freaked out. I don't think I'll ever be relieved until a long time from now - if ever - for the reasons A Conservative Teacher mentioned.

Chuck always has great answers!

I agree with AFSister about names - as much as one may want to honor the deceased, perhaps children should have their own names.

I've often thought about what might happen if I had children named after people whom I later no longer wished to honor. The names of my children would be perpetual, painful reminders of other people. I couldn't live with that, and I wouldn't want my children to live with that either.

Posted by: Amritas at July 07, 2009 11:04 AM (+nV09)

16 Both of our children are named after family members. The girl's first and middle names are those of grandmothers. The boy's middle name is a family name though his first name is not. We liked the idea of adding another layer to the family connection beyond just the DNA. But not everyone would go that route. To each, their own.

Should anything ever happen to MacGyver or my children, I don't know that I could bury them - not right away. We've agreed on cremation simply because I don't know where I'd wind up should any of my worst fears be realized and I'd hate to be separated from them should I choose to move away from where they were buried.

As for the bleeding, I know you've flipped 3 tails already but my hope is that it is merely a result of some spectacular 'construction' taking place down there! I'm praying for you - constantly.

Posted by: HomefrontSix at July 07, 2009 05:36 PM (7Qxzl)

17 Prayers from me too.  I really want to say something witty and uplifting, but I'm drawing a blank on that.  Still, wanted you to know there is one more person out here hoping with you.

Posted by: rc at July 07, 2009 11:05 PM (HBve/)

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