July 07, 2009

A FUTURE PROMISE

I really enjoyed reading this blog post via CG, I was a pro-life atheist, though the message that stuck with me was likely not one the author foresaw. I found comfort in this:

Because sex contains not a hard reality, but only a future promise, it becomes a promise, the promise of the man to the woman "I will be with you always, even if this does produce that for which it is designed."

In our case, the opposite is true: "even if it doesn't produce that for which it is designed."

My husband and I have said a variation on that for years.  In fact, last night I mentioned that I would've had conception problems no matter who I married, but that at least I was having these problems with a loving husband.  I apologized to my husband for ruining his chances at a baby, to which he replied that he'd rather have dead babies with me than live babies with a worse wife.

We're in this together, no matter what happens.

Posted by: Sarah at 07:49 AM | Comments (10) | Add Comment
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"dead babies with me than live babies with a worse wife"

You've got a good man there, Sarah.  He loves you above all.

Posted by: AFSister at July 07, 2009 08:47 AM (2Nifp)

2 He really has a way with words.

I think he's wasting himself in the rap/hip hop genre.  That has country song written alllll over it.

With all the talk of 'good eggs', he's definitely one.  An Easter egg even.

Posted by: Guard Wife at July 07, 2009 09:15 AM (qk9Ip)

3 Not like you need me to tell you this ...

It's not just about the babies. Marriage is much more than conception. And a worse wife would probably also be a worse mother.

Thank you for sharing that conversation you had last night with us. You have nothing to apologize for. You have done nothing wrong. On the contrary, you recognize you're with the right man. In the midst of all this personal pain, of the trials facing this nation, it is reassuring to be reminded that true love exists and endures.

Posted by: Amritas at July 07, 2009 10:02 AM (+nV09)

4 He surely does have a way with words.  And I am glad he is still around to help keep you from sinking too far into the depths.  You couldn't see the  pics from Vegas and not know you guys are in total lurve...

Posted by: wifeunit at July 07, 2009 10:13 AM (t5K2U)

5 I love mr. Grok.....

Posted by: awtm at July 07, 2009 12:28 PM (C12Tb)

6 I followed your link  and read Steve Kellmeyer's post. It is really beautiful.  This is why many people realize abstinence when young is a good thing. Of course, many of them realize it after that time has passed. I wish we still taught more about "saving yourself" for the right man because many young girls don't seem to realize how young men are driven by hormones so much more than the girls are. I think you and your hubby are a very lucky and smart couple to have each other. Babies are not all there is to marriage. If you are fortunate you have babies but when they are grown up you still have each other. Real love just grows forever.

Posted by: Ruth H at July 07, 2009 12:54 PM (Y4oAO)

7 Three cheers for that.

Posted by: Lucy at July 07, 2009 12:59 PM (0nTD7)

8 Yay for Mr. Grok! :-)  *hugs*  And ditto to Amritas - please understand that you have nothing to apologize for...

Posted by: Krista at July 07, 2009 01:50 PM (sUTgZ)

9 You do have a wonderful husband.  I envy what the two of you have together and hope that I can find that with someone someday (sooner rather than later) myself.

I read the linked article.  Too bad guys can't figure that sorta thing out a lot earlier.  That way, I wouldn't have to feel like such a weirdo when it come to personal choice.  Let's just say the doctor I saw one of the times I stopped into the clinic on campus (nothing serious - probably s persistent cough or an ear ache or something) while I was working on my M.Ed. didn't seem to believe me when I said "never"...  The reasons for "never" are my own: I know me, and without that promise of "I'll always be there", I'm not willing to set myself up for the heartache that would come if it were - for the guy - just something physical...

Posted by: Miss Ladybug at July 07, 2009 08:45 PM (paOhf)

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Awww, good man!

Posted by: Stacy at July 11, 2009 12:33 AM (3Xy/L)

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